I Think Once a Cheater Always a Cheater

Once upon a time I held a perspective/ideal that I would be a faithful partner to whom ever I was in a relationship. That reality was crashed the moment that I started seeing another guy while being a in a long distance relationship with another man in 2017. I ended the long distance relationship at the persistence of the new guy. Things were over long ago however I stayed in the partnership.

It’s over a year now with the current partner and we were also in a distance relationship by 3 hrs drive. However during this time I was also creating friendships with other people. I like to talk and I find myself bored easily ( no this is not a defence- merely background info). It’s coming up to 5 months we’re living together.

I love this guy. Yet I’m bored and now I find myself talking to other guys but I always tell them I’m in a relationship and seeking platonic interactions.

Yet things have happened and I didn’t intend them to. I’m a cheater and I want to return the ideal of being a faithful and committed partner.

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Ynot1more · 46-50, M

I think add a species we aren't designed to be monotonous very few animals are I think we romanticize the idea and love the theory but are genetic makeup doesn't subscribe to same philosophy

ZairaZenZen · 26-30, F

@Ynot1more oh sounds interesting, what makes you say this?

Ynot1more · 46-50, M

Most animals only have sex to propagate the species we do for physical and mental stimulation as well and looking at history most civilizations their are more than one partner, the strong provider and the fertile women always had many options and usually chose more than one.. even biblically they weren't, so very few were monogamous that's a fairly new idea in the grand scheme of humanity

ZairaZenZen · 26-30, F

@Ynot1more are you a monogamist or polyamorist?

Ynot1more · 46-50, M

Trying monogamy but only so successful lol

ZairaZenZen · 26-30, F

@Ynot1more hehe how long has the trial been going on?

Ynot1more · 46-50, M

I've been monogamous for a few years now just believe otherwise but I want the woman I have and this only way to have her