I Why Do Men Cheat and Think Nothing of It

Liars, Cheats, Losers, Users... They hide behind the sanctity of marriage looking for their next cheap thrill...she doesn't understand me, he says...when a man tells me he has gone out on his wife, I slowly extricate myself from the arrangement...I start looking for the signs and they are always there. Fix your marriage or move on...stop looking for your next fix or someone to take care of you...stand on your own 2 feet...

Do I think I am so special he will change this huge character flaw? No way..I know first hand of the pain. I believed in my marriage, I worked hard to make it work..what was the problem? We married young and he would not grow up..we had grown up problems. It made him feel more like a man...It made me mad as hell. he thought I did not have an exit plan and I didn't. He told me I would never make it without him...we will see, I said..There is nothing in life you can give me that I don't have or can't get for myself..I filed my Emancipation Proclamation and walked...no job, no money, 2 critically ill children, sick mom, I was a senior in college with one semester to go...I would rather live in abject poverty than be subjected to such torture. He tried to come back and I kept walking.

She must have thought she was special...but he went out on her too. she holds it over his head like a sword. To this day, he still tries to get to me but never succeeded until we had a tragedy in common...he took one final parting blow and got me. After all these years...he still tries to get me for leaving him.

I believe in God..I believe that every dog has their day and some dogs have 2. I will leave this in the hands of God.

crazyniceguy

I used to think it was the men. I entered my marriage afraid i would be the one. Would I be the weak male who damages a lifetime for a moment's pleasure? In the end I was blindsided by a cheating wife. My next thought was that I must be unique. I must have done something wrong. It's the men who cheat. Then my eyes were opened. I started meeting other divorced men who's wives had cheated on them. The story above happens all too often. I'm just saying that it isn't just a "guy thing." I meant my wedding vows. They weren't always easy to keep. Had my ex been ashamed and said she wouldn't do it again I would have stayed. Instead she moved on to the next marriage. From what I understand she took the same vows she took with me and didn't keep..

satman

Generaliy speaking , men are more physical and women are more emotional , many relationships evolve , i think before marriage both should sit down and discuss what they both want and expect from it , once children and mortgages are involved it can get messy , so many men take the easier route , not nice i know but i think honest

akindheart · 61-69, F

satman..it is the only way to be..honest..there is NO reason to lie..none whatsoever..my ex went out on me and guess what? he went out on his wife and she has gone out on him..karma baby.