Why fool people?

So I have these family members on FB and all their family pics are so happy and perfect and people are commenting on a great marriage on facebook but I know the real them and how they hate each other and all the fights and tears... Why are they fooling everyone?

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Serenitree · F

People don't want the world to see their dirty laundry.

I am on here, telling people all the good things about my family, and how happy I am with them. And it's true, but it's not the whole story. I have one grandson who respects no one; not even his mother or his daughter. I have a grandson who has social anxiety, and can't leave the house without having an attack. A daughter who hates the world. A daughter who thinks every person in the world wants her dead, including strangers passing her house.

I don't share those things on Facebook. It isn't even just my privacy that I'm protecting, but my family doesn't need all their private problems told to everyone who knows their kids, friends, in-laws, neighbours. Some things are not anybody's business.

I share some here, because no one knows who they are. I'm not betraying their privacy.

Feb. 14/17
2:59 am
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SW-User

aw I hope your son overcomes his social anxiety I know what it's like...

Serenitree · F

@IamTrying: thank you. I've heard good things about B12 shots for many different emotional and physical problems. Now I just hope we can convince him to try. I fear he may be getting too comfortable in his cocoon. He used to be a successful young man. Worked his way up from entry-level position to management in less than two years. The company sent him for a couple of training courses to progress into the executive level. Then there were two things that happened that changed him. One was a pretty bad automobile accident, and another was finding out the woman he was so in love with, was cheating on him with his so called friends.

Feb. 20/17
11:31 pm
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SW-User

i had the second situation too... major backstabbing, takes couple of years to get over. For the car accident---maybe hypnosis ?

Serenitree · F

@IamTrying: I don't know. He's married, now, and has a son and a stepson. His wife is a lovely woman, but she too is a shut in.

Feb. 21/17
12:05 am
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SW-User

if that were me i would use one session hypnosis to relieve the mental tension or fears that resulted from accident

Serenitree · F

@IamTrying: unfortunately he isn't open to suggestions.

Feb. 21/17
1:10 am
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SW-User

hm so what is he open to

SW-User

anything at all

Serenitree · F

@IamTrying: I don't know. I've asked his mother to talk to him and that gets her crying. Hevand his wofe had to move back here frpm where they were and for two weeks, he was near breaking point. Crying, shaking, vomiting, just from the need to pack, and the thpight of leaving his present surroundings. Once the move happened and she got the house looking like home, he started to settle down somewhat. Problem is, he tried to kill himself about 6 years ago, and his mom is afraid to push him too hard.

Feb. 21/17
1:45 am
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SW-User

@Serenitree: yeah when the person is not ready ---don't push him definitely. can you bring a therapist home i mean they can do a session in his bed. He is not the only one like this. Those therapists seen everything

Serenitree · F

@IamTrying: it's not my place to do so. I am the grandmother. If his mother won't do it, it's because she knows there will be a problem if she does.

Feb. 20/17
4:47 am
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SW-User

oh ok