What women want

Women want a man that is faithful provider good looking etc.

But men are logical.

Why should men get married now days.

Men don't get a woman who hasent slept around.
The woman normally doesn't want to get married till she is older so he doesn't get youth.
Most have a kid he will have to support but not allowed to correct as if it were his own.

And if he gets married she is encouraged to leave him with half of everything limits his time with his kids. And gets child support to raise them with out him in the house plus all the government handouts food insurance housing child care etc.

So why shoud a man get married?

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah, if you marry the wrong person divorce is rough. If you’re the kind of person who is insecure about her having a sex life before you then that must suck. If you’re only into her for her youth then she definitely shouldn’t marry you though knowing as her looks fade you’ll consider her less valuable / lovable.

Similarly, if you’re the kind of person who dislikes the complexity of being a blended family then you absolutely shouldn’t dare anyone with a child. However, not all men have your strong dislike / grievance about being a bonus-dad type person.

To answer your question though: a gesture of unique love and devotion to the person you are grateful to have met and wish to share the rest of your life with as a partner.
Possible loan application, insurance, and tax benefits.
A solid team accomplishes more than an individual or non-interdependent couple, especially as the stakes get higher for what you want out of life.
Many important life decisions/investments are based on partnership agreements that would take many years to see through/bloom/build upon. Doing these things when you’re not married increases the likelihood it’ll fall through when both people don’t have a marriage mentality.
Eventually we all get older, wilt into our final years of life. Towards the end, it’s wonderful to trust that you’ve married into companionship, laughter, and compassion.

dale74 · M

@WhateverWorks you missed the point

WhateverWorks · 36-40

No, I really didn’t.. it’s just that your ‘points’ are why you (and I guess men like you) shouldn’t marry, not men in general. It’s not about logic. Someone with your priorities isn’t a good fit for marriage 🤷🏻‍♀️ @dale74

dale74 · M

@WhateverWorks my priorities were always to marry and support and have a loving family.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

You may ‘want’ marriage/family etc. , but with your present views, the priorities you listed: young virgin without kids.. ehh… the way you’re so comfortable devaluing people (women in particular) guised as ‘how men think’ superiority, as based on ‘logic’.. It’s not based on logic. It’s based on your personal beliefs and emotional aversions. Surely, people are allowed to have their preferences. I don’t agree with your preferences, but that’s not exactly the issue. It’s that your inclination to rationalize contempt and superiority aren’t desirable ‘forever mate’ qualities. It should be a hint that the people who agree with your ax to grind ‘about women bring all yadaydayada rawr!’ are also single or have a tempestuous relationship history. That’s not a sign that they are wise. It’s a sign that they haven’t learned yet how to effectively connect with women in a healthy way and have become bitter. Them cheering you on might feel validating, but isn’t helpful to you actually finding a good match and getting to be happy.

A happy, healthy lasting marriage and family, finding someone who as a person is complimentary, really has nothing to do with the things you wrote, except the part where you know about yourself you don’t want to be a stepparent. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@dale74

dale74 · M

@WhateverWorks You missed the point people that want traditional family values I did not expect that if they did not put the same criteria on themselves

WhateverWorks · 36-40

What are traditional family values? (From your perspective specifically) @dale74