So do you date black guys?

Because some are scared of uncertainties ,they rather believe their past experiences is enough to form views about everyone.


It's also easier to categorise people based on shallow observations so another reason is laziness.

And sometimes they associate beauty with skin color and can't get over that preference. It's like loving a type of music instead of another.

I totally understand what you mean. To me, skin color is nothing but wrapping paper, and why stay stuck on the wrapping paper when the gift is inside?

i'm totally with u on this one - i've had my share of weirdos on dating sites & been asked really weird questions which shldn't really come up esp when ur just trying to get to know someone - unfortunately there are people out there who date as if they have a shopping list - e.g. rich/poor, black/white/whichever ethnicity, live with parents/alone/with mates etc etc please circle appropriately lol

normal people becoming fewer & fewer these days

I know how you feel, but from the other angle. I've had people who wanted to know if I was white before it went any further. I didn't want to be rude but I didn't want to date someone based on the colour of my skin. Like you, I wanted someone to get along with and to see how compatible we are. Although by asking that question, they immediately made me think we would not be compatible.

My first thought was that if he is a Black man then he must by default have had experiences in the past that make him want to get that question out of the way upfront.

With regards to not giving him your no. before getting to know him better is concerned, I think you're doing the right thing, regardless of his skin colour.

People have their own preferences and no one should feel guilty about their own personal preference. Date who you want to date, and if someone has a problem with that, tough shit.

There are still a lot of women on dating sites that will reject a guy if he's black. I'm sure he just wanted to know so he didn't waste his time.

As long as they don’t make it out to be a sexy taboo in their own mind and I see it, the initial question I don’t mind