What do I say to her 😶

We’re in the same singles group at church and I can message her through an app we’re all connected on. I’m interested in her. What do I say? We haven’t messaged yet. This will be the first one.

I want to ask her out. Should I just do that first thing? Or should I say something else first?

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MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Talk about something that happened in the group. See how that goes first. Then you can say you are going somewhere to eat and ask if she wants to join you.

SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M

@MrBrownstone Hey that’s a good idea. Thanks.

ImplodingVoices · F

If you've not already, you need to get to know her first. Find some common ground. Hang out with friends. Make sure you actually think shes more than just some cute girl you like.

SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M

@ImplodingVoices Isn’t part of dating to figure out if you like someone?

ImplodingVoices · F

[@SinlessOnslaught of course, but, it goes better if you know them first. obviously you can do it any way you want. In my life I've found that the people I think are attractive and what I want, rarely are. And people I have no interest in, once I've gotten to know them, are everything I wanted.
The heart is a liar. The dick, even more of one. You need to remember that.