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I just wanted to know if what would you do in this scenario.

*You have an ex and you've dated for almost 5 years in a long distance relationship. You haven't met because you were both not ready financially. You broke up for how many times because you thought that your relationship won't last because of your distance. You've been trying to forget her but you can't find someone else like her.

*While trying to forget her, you met someone. She loves you from your worst to your best. She would do everything for you. Because she cared too much for you, you dated her. She gave up everything for you but you don't love her like the way she loves you. After a couple of years of dating her, you've found out that she has a mental problem. Because things are not just working between the two of you, you've decided to break up with her but she doesn't want too.

*Your ex came back and wants you back. She said that she's ready and will visit you. You told her that you're already dating someone else but she said that she's fine with it. You still love her so you dated her while you're dating someone else. The girl you're dating with mental problem might do something bad when she finds out that you're cheating on her.

Your ex is already planning to visit you this year. What would you do?
Fungirlmmm · 46-50, F Best Comment
Well it sounds like things are already in motion. You cannot control the actions of another person. So while it is important to show empathy and compassion you have also need to be honest. You need to admit to girl 2 that you care about her but do not see the relationship as anything beyond friendship. Also you have not spent time with girl 1 ld so you may only have a friendship with her too. As long as you are honest with everyone involved, follow your heart but pack your head too because it's important
JennyACTII · 26-30
[@1433,Fungirlmmm] hey..thank you for your advice. I'll try to do that. I'm just scared.
Fungirlmmm · 46-50, F
[@601141,EugeneACTII] I can understand bring scared from both girls, but one thing you know already is that you aren't in love with girl 2. So you deal with that first and then you do what you need to do with girl 1

Daisy50 · 51-55, F
break up with your girl friend.You'd be doing her a favor if you don't love her and it's going nowhere.Let her find someone else that can truly love her.Anything else would be selfish.Then you are free to do what you want with prior girlfriend.
Test12345 · 26-30, M
I'm a christian so I would tell the ex to go away. I won't cheat and I won't abandon my gf.
Test12345 · 26-30, M
[@601141,EugeneACTII] I'd think twice, and land on the same answer both times... I would not go against my religion or girlfriend or I'd feel like a total insect at the end of it...
Test12345 · 26-30, M
[@601141,EugeneACTII] ps. you can make it work, you just need to put in some effort. Make her realize you're ready to work for it, and she'll do the same, with time.
JennyACTII · 26-30
Thanks bro. I appreciate that. I might really need to think about it more.
I agree with Martin. Number one comes back and suddenly you find something wrong with number two.

Number one has no respect for you or she would leave you alone
Shayla · F
I don't cheat in the first place. Break up with the one you don't love. Let her go.
JennyACTII · 26-30
[@30123,Shayla] What would you tell her?
Shayla · F
[@601141,EugeneACTII] That we're just not compatible and we both must move on. You do not need to explain further.
Test12345 · 26-30, M
[@601141,EugeneACTII] You probably do need to explain further if you decide to let go.
Sarabee · 41-45
First off tell you gf that someone else loves her and break up n see about this new girl

 
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