Anyone else in this weird stage of life rebuilding their social network?

Divorced in my forties and most of the crew I hang out with are milleniels in their mid twenties or thirties......but people always guess I’m about mid thirties so i guess that’s cool. #weirdnotweirdnoweird

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SW-User

Yep. I'm in a really interesting spot. Recently divorced after 22 years. That decision meant losing almost everyone I've ever known as family or friend. It's an agonizing place to be, but it sure does teach you a lot about yourself and about what true friends and family really are.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SW-User I hear you. Most cannot deal with it and don't want to choose sides so they just drop off. People wonder how we can divorce after decades. Things may be severe, but what a life! We can still choose what we want, who we love, and where we are going. We are so strong and so capable. We are changing everything and we are successful. Good outlook, Gethsemane!

thedarkshadow · M

@SW-User @PoetryNEmotion poetry such great wisdom as always so so glad for the rich friendship we have here!

Gethsemane....I totally get it. All my past life married friends just feel weird and so quietly dropped out of my life.....well I do have a few church friends still but holidays are always different ....13yrs of marriage and divorced 4yrs....keep rebuilding ....it just takes intention and work and if you find people you like pursue them ! On your side!

SW-User

@thedarkshadow Thank you! I will.

Most of my church friends have chosen to make the institution of marriage more important than the safety of the woman in it.... therefore they will no longer be friends with me. It's a frustrating place to be and it's all new (end of Oct). But I'm working through it and learning a ton. Thank you for your encouragement.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SW-User They sound rather hypocritical to me. You will do just fine. You will make new, more dear friends now. They will enrich your life. You will do well. I am proud of you, Gethsemane.

SW-User

@PoetryNEmotion Thank you! Gracious... my eyes are getting misty. I know you're right. It separated the true friends and family from those who are only fair - weather friends. I just wish it didn't hurt so badly. I pour my all into people. I don't do it to get something in return, but this has felt like betrayal. Regardless, I'm moving forward. I know I made the right decision and that's what matters.