I Have a Crush On Someone I Shouldn't

@SailorMarz: I would have to agree. There's no point investing your time in your teacher who is 20 years older then you who probably has children and a wife. Dreams can be misleading.

Just because you dreamt about him doesn't mean you should try to initiate an intimate relationship. It's very inappropriate but you can be friends at best. Your young and there are so many young men or women out there you don't need to be messing with some old man. That's just my advice you don't have to listen to a word though.

I just want to be close to him .. nothing more than that

@Sakurari: i wonder if he gets weird, girl crushy vibes from you

@Sakurari: you have feelings for him that's sweet.

Yes I have but I'm afraid of doing anything stupid that will make him hates me or not respect me anymore

@Sakurari: As a chronic dater of much older divorcees with children, here is my advice:

They control the relationship. I do feel that my ex genuinely cared about me as a person, but I think a lot of why older men get into relationships with younger women is because they like the sense of power and control. They've lived more life, dated more women, etc. They know how to manipulate and make you feel like you need them.

Kids (if he has custody) make going out, taking vacations, being crazy difficult. Be prepared to spend a lot of time at home. In order to spend time with him I spent many weekend nights just having beers at his house because he couldn't leave his son home alone.

Divorcees, especially recent ones, will want to get out there and be single again. It doesn't matter how old they are. It's important to find out if you are a part of their "sowing their wild oats" phase or not. Although you are dating, having a younger girlfriend is oftentimes (in my case) just a natural part of transitioning back to being out in the dating/fucking shark pool. A good way to gauge this is - does he introduce you to his family/friends?

Sex will be awesome. Don't let this cloud your judgment. They will buy you shit, take you to nice dinners, etc. Don't let this cloud your judgment either.

That being said, I don't think these relationships can never work, but in my experience they are oftentimes more of a novelty than something real. Proceed with caution.

Thank so much for your advice. Do you think I should tell him how I feel?

Honestly, a lot of people are oblivious to obvious signs so cleverness is most likely going to fly over their heads.

In my experience people who like you, platonic or not, will want your company. They'll make themselves available. Like, they'll cancel prior plans to spend time with you.