I Am Going Through a Break-up

He is amazing, kind, gentle, wonderful and loving. WE worked well together. We loved each other. But ultimately it always felt temporary (even after 10 months). Like we were just satisfying each other's immediate needs to not be lonely. I crave physical affection. He gave me that. The thing that finally got to me was that we wanted different things from life. It was a good few months with so many good experiences. But we also went through so much crap together in the short time and we helped each other through it. Now it just feels wrong. I want to find my forever person and I want him to be happy with his. I think he started to take me for granted too. He says I'm "the one", yet I don't feel the same. Maybe I just need some space and in the future things will be different again... I just don't know. My heart feels numb... Thank God for dissociation. Aha.

(First 24 hours no contact after nearly a year of talking every day...)

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PhoenixPhail · M

It sounds like there's some really good stuff there to salvage. Why not go to counseling together and see if you can find a workable solution?

Good Luck! 🤗

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@PhoenixPhail I think that some of our demons don't mix well. It is the big things we would compromise on such as me wanting kids and him not (until he met me). I wouldn't want to have kids with someone who never wanted them and then only changed their mind after being with me. I can't guarantee that those feelings will stay. I think...?

PhoenixPhail · M

@PandorasBox Sometimes people change their minds. It could be he might [i]continue[/i] wanting kids, even with a different partner. And, there's no guarantee of [i]anything.[/i]

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@PhoenixPhail what do you think of the phrase "if it's meant to be it will be"? Do you think maybe in the future if things are different and paths cross and he really was the one it could happen?