I Want to Break Up With My Bf

I feel like my relationship isn't right for me maybe, yet I feel so selfish feeling this way. He does so much for me, yet I'm not attracted to him much anymore nor am I feeling it. Yet it's hard when your only reason is that you don't find him attractive, but love him like a bff. I'm realizing it since I had to leave him for the summer that I might not feel the same way as I once did, since I don't miss him. It makes me feel terrible. I live with him and I don't want to hurt him. I just don't know what I want in life now.

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SoggedNapped · 31-35, M

Why not just tell him...and then let go - rejection, no matter how noble the cause, always hurts. BUT the truth is always better!

Vampireloveless · 26-30, F

@SoggedNapped I think I might try a little more with some advice my sister gave me and also wait out the time to see if it changes

SoggedNapped · 31-35, M

@Vampireloveless I think that is a good plan, but you don't seem sold on it. Listen to your heart, really. You matter... as does he. Do what is right and fair for both of you.

Vampireloveless · 26-30, F

It's hard, my heart is confused mainly. I used to really really like him and now I'm just not understanding why I'm not and all.

SoggedNapped · 31-35, M

@Vampireloveless It happens.. that why we date, for that reason.. we get to know a person better and we like them, but we don't love them. That's why we date. Take your time, but be fair..and you cannot help the way you feel either. It.Just.Is. :)

Vampireloveless · 26-30, F

Yeah, I know