I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

You don't deserve abuse

Well actually you do not because if you did you would still be in that relationship but something inside you told you that was enough and you got yourself out. Please go stand in front of a mirror look right at it and say to that person in the mirror that you deserve to be beaten. Chance are you would not be able to finish the sentence because your brain will take over and say No that no you do not deserve to be abused" Never ever let the abuser win. I could be wrong but were you abused growing up? If so maybe that's why you think you deserve this. Well as a victim myself I am here to tell you do not abusing someone is not love it's control and fear. Maybe you should talk to someone about this.

I somewhat know where you're coming from. I never had an abusive spouse or significant other, but I was emotionally abused a great deal at my job as a part-time cashier (by customers AND managers). Then when I got my next job at a machine shop (of all places) and was treated with the utmost respect and dignity by almost everyone in our department even under the most stressful circumstances, I almost felt like something was very wrong because people refused to be condescending or unkind to me. There is no denying that this stuff fucks with your head!

Abusive relations make you better to be frank. I have gone through that too..

A guy should never be hitting a woman anywhere but her butt mutually enjoyed kinkiness that's not harmful aside, it's not right.

I don't have a problem with a man spanking his wife if she won't cooperate, but I have a problem with hitting anywhere but her bottom and abusive words, and those things shouldn't happen

You have a lot of life ahead of you at this stage. Do what you can to get past thinking you only deserve abuse. It will give you a much better quality of life & much better relationships. Give yourself the opportunity to enjoy life & raise above the abusers.

I don't think you deserve abuse for the rest of your life, but I get it. I was abused and have felt the same way.

Well, I hope you can get past thinking you deserve to be abused.

Never put up with someone that is abusive

girl, I know *exactly* what you mean by that

I as well, mine was mental and verbal.

Sorry that happened. I was in a bad relationship too, but it made me even more insistent on being treated well.