I got another good one to really rub salt in...
Hating on women who set up a Go Fund Me to ask for help to get on their feet after they leave domestic abuse.
All weekend, I've read nothing but "Don't have children if you can't afford them" and "Get a job, you lazy scrounger".
These are the same people who will say "Just leave your abuser if it's that bad, then".
On the whole, it highlights why I feel paralysed in my environment because I can't get out without help... and asking for help means becoming a "scrounger". I'd rather go homeless on the streets before I'm labelled as a "scrounger" because of the abuse I have endured for 21 years.
Hating on women who set up a Go Fund Me to ask for help to get on their feet after they leave domestic abuse.
All weekend, I've read nothing but "Don't have children if you can't afford them" and "Get a job, you lazy scrounger".
These are the same people who will say "Just leave your abuser if it's that bad, then".
On the whole, it highlights why I feel paralysed in my environment because I can't get out without help... and asking for help means becoming a "scrounger". I'd rather go homeless on the streets before I'm labelled as a "scrounger" because of the abuse I have endured for 21 years.
Kenworth4954 · 56-60, M
@HootyTheNightOwl take the label my dear. It's far better than going homeless.
Kenworth4954 · 56-60, M
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Kenworth4954 · 56-60, M
@HootyTheNightOwl in all honesty it's a shame that people need to speak with such hatred. On the other hand understand most of us place no value on the remarks of venomous people. I know it's extremely hard but never let a stranger define you. It's your journey and you're getting through it the only way you know how. This is exactly why I posted my original comment. I can't imagine anyone making such remarks without knowing the exact circumstance. I never would
@Kenworth4954 Unfortunately, we no longer live in a world where people try to see things from other people's perspective... even governments are in on the act now, too.
Tomorrow, I've got to go and show the job centre that I have £68 in my bank account, which I have saved to leave so that my abuser will get Universal Credit again. I will not see a penny of that money until my birthday, when I will add in whatever birthday present money I get. I shouldn't have to be stuck with abuse because I can only save £30-£40 a year... and it's not fair that I have to produce evidence of that fact at risk of harm to myself. The only reason I don't have to upload the photos of my bank statements to the Internet is because I don't have photo ID, so my abuse is helping me in that regard.
They say that you can have your benefits paid separately... but, the reality of that is that you both have to go to the job centre together and agree to the change in front of a work coach, in the style of a couple exchanging wedding vows. If you were an abuser... would you agree to this??? Of course they don't.
In a way, I'm happy that you asked, because I got the chance to talk about the impact of abuse and how governments are actively enabling it to continue through their own inaction and efforts to save a few pounds. Hopefully, in educating one person, they might remember my experiences and educate others what abuse can be like for me and others who are living with it every day.
Tomorrow, I've got to go and show the job centre that I have £68 in my bank account, which I have saved to leave so that my abuser will get Universal Credit again. I will not see a penny of that money until my birthday, when I will add in whatever birthday present money I get. I shouldn't have to be stuck with abuse because I can only save £30-£40 a year... and it's not fair that I have to produce evidence of that fact at risk of harm to myself. The only reason I don't have to upload the photos of my bank statements to the Internet is because I don't have photo ID, so my abuse is helping me in that regard.
They say that you can have your benefits paid separately... but, the reality of that is that you both have to go to the job centre together and agree to the change in front of a work coach, in the style of a couple exchanging wedding vows. If you were an abuser... would you agree to this??? Of course they don't.
In a way, I'm happy that you asked, because I got the chance to talk about the impact of abuse and how governments are actively enabling it to continue through their own inaction and efforts to save a few pounds. Hopefully, in educating one person, they might remember my experiences and educate others what abuse can be like for me and others who are living with it every day.
Kenworth4954 · 56-60, M
@HootyTheNightOwl that's a lot to take in but I'm very appreciative that you chose to share it with me and talking about it in detail gave you at very least some temporary relief. I'm greatfull you were able to share this with me. In time I know you'll be fine. "Everything falls apart but then you get to put back together again "🌹🌷💐😉
