Tired of chasing

Tired of loving people and putting in all the work to keep the relationship alive. I'm tired of chasing them when the relationship has problems. I always put in all the work to keep the relationship working and it just makes me feel like a loser.

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NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

I feel this. Deeply.

I feel like I am always the one initiating contact and asking to see him. Makes me feel fucking stupid. My Brian knows it’s not okay and that I shouldn’t see him anymore because he clearly doesn’t feel the same.
So what the fuck is so fucked up in me that I haven’t been able to let go?…

SW-User

@NewBeginnings7790 you can't accept something is really over until it actually ends. Give yourself a break. The relationship just keeps dragging you back.

LadyGrace

Oh honey, you're not a loser. You just forgot to love yourself first and keep your boundaries. When that happens, people take advantage of you.

nameless1 · 36-40

You arent a loser for trying.they are the loser for not. Its easy to walk away. But dont chase. Just replace.

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@nameless1 I don't believe in replacing people.

nameless1 · 36-40

@bushi2020 well then get used to it. I never had to chase anyone who wanted to be with me

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bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@jshm2 actually I mostly played video games no one wanted to party with me. I'm not into goth girls most guys aren't.

lwshm64 · 56-60, F

Me too it's so hard to find the person that wants to put in as much work as you're willing to. Good luck to you I hope you find your person. I haven't found mine it's just my eyes and heart are more open now to see true people.

RoxClymer · 41-45, M

yup, I was in my early 30s when I came to that conclusion myself
give it a few years and you'll get some interest back, but that break did me good

CardiacKintsugi · 61-69, F

You are a loving soul so love yourself first. They will see your worth and maybe begin to reciprocate.

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