Somewhere Out There..

I think there can be more than one person you could build a meaningful life, with not necessarily one destined “soulmate.” Compatibility matters, but it isn’t the same as never disagreeing. Two people can have hard seasons and still be happy together if they both feel safe, cared for, and willing to work through problems.

Being happy all the time isn’t realistic, being able to find joy, repair after conflict, and feel mostly respected and secure is.
Losing respect for each other is a serious warning sign, especially if it shows up as contempt, humiliation, or repeated disregard for boundaries. It doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is over, but it does mean something needs to change and both people have to want to change it.

idk my ex thought so.. not everyone is perfect or happy all the time tho life is complex

All love is lost with us...but we still stay together

I dunno if I agree that there is someone for everyone, because that almost makes it sound like people don’t have any responsibility to grow or become someone who is capable of maintaining a healthy relationship. I think people can find love, but sometimes that means being willing to change, grow, and work through the things that make sharing a life with someone else difficult.

I also don’t think we need to focus on being happy all the time. There are going to be good days and bad days, and I think what matters more is whether the relationship is healthy for both people.

As far as losing respect for someone, for me that usually means they have crossed a moral line or repeatedly acted in a way that goes against something I consider important. At that point, I would see that as a red flag.

No couple is happy all the time like 24x7. The real love is choosing to be teammates through both the good and bad days. Rough patches are totally normal, as long as you still genuinely respect each other.

Even if we are with who we feel is right , not all days will be perfect . Being a team works too .

Losing respect is definitely a red flag. I dont think any couple gets along 100% of the time....but those times should be minimal. Both should be happy with each other far more than not. Respect is certainly a foundation block for any relationship.....friend or partner.