@BetweenLines well he was telling me about how one of his friends parents were nice to him but they were abusive towards her 🫤. I said imagine how the people that are nasty towards everyone are behind closed doors
No two people though have the same perspectives. So you can have a person thinking negatively, no matter where they are, just as much as constantly positive.
When you get out of the one dimensional line, that many are in, then it's easier to see just how diverse each of those perspectives are.
The people most notorious for that? Narcissists. Now, granted, many people treat their friends and acquaintances quite well, but that's because there's less riding on that. A lover or spouse has more access and influence.
Generally, my friends don't criticize me for not emptying the dishwasher or taking out the trash; see what I mean?
There's every possibility they ARE just sweet, good natured people and maybe their outward polite nature manifests from the anxiety they have to appease an abusive partner. It could be the opposite scenario to the one you suggest.
