Why's it complicated

Or... It's all about the exs.

When I met my bf I wasn't looking for a long term relationship. I'd had one long term relationship I was still getting over and a short one which has been fun.

Here we are years down the line and we've become a couple. We get on well we don't argue (much 🤣) we respect each other's separate lives etc.

But his ex wife has always been a problem. She even once had me arrested on suspicion of child abduction. She's often not around for child drop off pick up. Can call saying there's an emergency when she knows we've paid for something etc.

I've tried largely to stay out. But she found herself single again a few months ago and that's always when these games get worse. And they did. Some weeks ago I finally lost it and gave her a piece of my mind. That made the sodding us around worse. And raised tensions with my bf. So much so officially I put us on a break and went on holiday by myself.

We reconciled on my return but he admitted to seeing someone else. I was ok with that. But this weekend he went away with her so am I now second gf rather than primary? I don't know but this is mad work time for me so will be too busy for this shit for a while.... Oh well

Mindfulness

Seeing someone else when he's been told you're on a break is sort of understandable, but if he continues seeing them once you believe your back together, then you are now the other lady.
Do you want that?
As for ex's using children as weapons, that's inexcusable.
It's petty, it's vindictive, it's childish.
Whatever happens now, I hope you'll be OK. 🫶

ironborn · M

It's not nice when there's a 3rd party that's toxic..

Do you mind playing second fiddle?

I guess you'll make some sort of decision at some stage...hopefully that suits you!