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tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
I disagree. I believe we have reshaped what forgiveness is into a selfish thing. Forgiveness should be selfless. We don’t forgive others for ourselves.. forgiveness should mean “I know you have wronged me but we can move on past this.” If you make it about yourself then you haven’t really forgiven the person at all.
Princess54 · 70-79, F
@tiltawhirl I don’t believe it’s selfish at all. Actually it’s freeing.
tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
@Princess54 forgiveness is freeing, yes. But true forgiveness is not for ourselves. What people are trying to spin off as forgiveness is actually just acceptance which is an important step in the process of true forgiveness. Saying that we forgive others so that we can release ourselves isn’t really forgiveness at all.
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
@tiltawhirl there’s no need for forgiveness because people do what they can with what they’ve got. If they treat you badly, it’s because their parents treated them badly.
tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
@Ferise1 that’s an interesting take on it and it’s true for some people but not everyone. Some people that were treated badly will treat others the same way whereas some people will use it as a guide of ways to never be and then of course there’s the in between. But forgiveness is necessary to move on with someone at least in a healthy way anyway.
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
@tiltawhirl I just don’t see forgiveness as necessary ever. Because people might want to harm you, but it’s just because the world is a cold place, and they’re just acting like they think they should act. You know, like when in Rome…
tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
@Ferise1 so if your spouse cheats on you and you discover it and decide you’d like to work things out still, you don’t think you’ll have to forgive them? It’s just okay and that’s that.. no resentment, no hurt feelings?
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
@tiltawhirl
Not really no. My wife cheated on me when I couldn’t perform anymore and I said it was okay.- she even had twins and lived with the guy and we divorced. It hurt me to not be with her anymore but I understood her behaviour. There was nothing to forgive people have needs.
Not really no. My wife cheated on me when I couldn’t perform anymore and I said it was okay.- she even had twins and lived with the guy and we divorced. It hurt me to not be with her anymore but I understood her behaviour. There was nothing to forgive people have needs.