Is it possible to love someone you aren't completely attracted to physically?
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DrWatson · 70-79, M
If you were to ask me who is the sexiest woman I know, based purely on physical attraction, my answer would probably change every 15 minutes. I concluded a long time ago that this kind of attraction, while pleasant to experience, is not terribly meaningful.
Yes, I can love someone, or even feel "fascinated" by someone, without her being "classically beautiful." And as others have said, particular aspects of her appearance will then become physically attractive to me.
Here is an example. When I was younger, I did not particularly think a certain set of physical characteristics (I will not be specific) was attractive. Then I fell in love with someone who had those characteristics. She broke up with me, and I was devasted. But to this day, whenever I see a woman who looks like that, I think "wow, she is beautiful!" (And I stopped 'carrying a torch' a long time ago. I got over the emotional attachment, but the shift in my perceptions of beauty was permanent)
Yes, I can love someone, or even feel "fascinated" by someone, without her being "classically beautiful." And as others have said, particular aspects of her appearance will then become physically attractive to me.
Here is an example. When I was younger, I did not particularly think a certain set of physical characteristics (I will not be specific) was attractive. Then I fell in love with someone who had those characteristics. She broke up with me, and I was devasted. But to this day, whenever I see a woman who looks like that, I think "wow, she is beautiful!" (And I stopped 'carrying a torch' a long time ago. I got over the emotional attachment, but the shift in my perceptions of beauty was permanent)