Ladies (of a certain age) what do you call him?

I'm in a relationship. I feel like I'm not "dating" as we both own our own houses so mostly he comes here I go there.

I said "boyfriend" and thought that something my teenage daughter would say not a woman of my age.

We're living apart so we're not partners and we're nowhere near that kind of commitment.

My daughter sarcastically referred to us as lovers the other day which I actually liked, being an old fashioned romantic. Better that friend with benefits or f#&buddy as my friend says!

So ladies over 40 what do you call him (or her)?

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ninalanyon · 61-69, T

I can't speak for actual genetic ladies (or ladies at all perhaps as I'm not always ladylike) but I refer to the man I feel closest to, even though we can only rarely meet, as my lover.

Boyfriend to me connotes a different sort of relationship somehow but I'm not sure I can articulate it. A boyfriend to me is a more constant companion for however long it lasts whereas a lover can be one's lover even if you haven't met for a year, as in my case :-(.

But perhaps he can be all of those, in turn or all at once, depending on mood and circumstance.

I'm curious though, what did your daughter mean when she "sarcastically referred to us as lovers"? What is there to be sarcastic about?

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@ninalanyon It occurs to me that there is another difference between boyfriend and lover. Usually one can have only one boyfriend at a time but it is perfectly possible to have many lovers simultaneously. And no I don't mean in the same sex act, well not necessarily!