How does custody battle over kids work?

If both parents (now divorced or separated) were great parents and normal shouldn't it be kids stay 2 weeks with one parent then 2 weeks the other? Rotating.

I always see cases "Am fighting for longer days of custody" or "Am fighting for kids." Is the system really unfair this way or is there real abuse going on in the home with one parent?

Also doesn't shift pattern make sense like "4 days with mum then 4 days with dad?" If both parents are within same town of course.

Am really curious and wondering.

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gregloa · 61-69, M

Don’t know why or how the divorce but Ya gotta make it about the kids. Sure if y’all can agree on joint custody but you’re calling it a battle. Don’t make it a battle.Don’t know how old they are but when they are of age they can tell the court which parent they want to live with assuming both can provide decent custody. If they are not of age yet then you have to obey the courts orders until they are. Make the best of every minute you have with them and don’t trash their mom. Don’t make them choose. Be a great loving dad and it’ll pay off eventually.