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WWYD? (Did i make the right choice? 🫠)

You meet a perfect gentleman, lsts call him M (woman/person, whatever fits the narrative for you. Theyre youre cowker that you were friends with but not super close) after a 3 year long relationship full of lies, cheating, gaslighting, and both mental and emotional abuse. You guys fall in love hard and are together for 2 years, living together, planning marriage and kids. You have two super close friends at work, G and B. Youre all apart of a friend group thats like family.
During the first year, a day after G slept over, she texts you screenshots of M telling her how he thought she was attractive and liked seeing her and you together. (Your pansexual and G is bi but you're just good friends) G completely shut him down and you confront him. Ultimately you decide to forgive him and nothing likw that ever happens again. Until the second year.
You and M have had a huge fight and youre venting to G and B. The conversation leds to a topic that promts B to let you know about a situation that happend with her and M. (For context, before you and M got together, he and B had a little flirtatious back and forth that never amounted to anything. Everyone knew this and it was never an issue. They actually were good friends after that and she fell in love with someone) A few months back, on a night when the whole gang was together and drinking, M was in B's ear talking about how they used to flirt and said "If it wasnt her (You), it would have been you (B))"
B shut him down but was afraid to say anything about it to you because she could see how happy you were. He swears that the conversation was misinterpreted. That everything said was just talking about the past, reminiscing.

You decide to end the relationship.

Now ultimately, in both situations, nothing actually happened (cheating) and you love this man. Hes been nothing but good to you. He has his flaws but you know he loves you more than anything....But he also has hit on youre closest friends behind your back while youre both together.

What would you have done?
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Baremine · 70-79, C
You probably are making a mistake. Alcohol leads to a lot of bad decisions. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes decisions made from anger destroy good things. Forgiveness is the key. I have a personality where I can talk to anybody.
One time on vacation we had just crossed from Arkansas into Mississippi and I stopped for fuel. I went in to pay and the beautiful lady that worked there greeted me and that Wonderful southern accent I hadn't heard in years came rolling out.
We probably talked for 10 maybe 15 minutes. And I was in trouble with my wife when I got back in the car. I did nothing wrong. But she didn't see it that way.
Jesus said that we are to forgive 70×7. And when your wife says I'm sorry, I'm so sorry, and is not just crying but sobbing for an affair that happened 30 years before, take her in your arms and hold her tight and tell her you love her. Almost thirty years later you will be glad you did.