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WWYD? (Did i make the right choice? 🫠)

You meet a perfect gentleman, lsts call him M (woman/person, whatever fits the narrative for you. Theyre youre cowker that you were friends with but not super close) after a 3 year long relationship full of lies, cheating, gaslighting, and both mental and emotional abuse. You guys fall in love hard and are together for 2 years, living together, planning marriage and kids. You have two super close friends at work, G and B. Youre all apart of a friend group thats like family.
During the first year, a day after G slept over, she texts you screenshots of M telling her how he thought she was attractive and liked seeing her and you together. (Your pansexual and G is bi but you're just good friends) G completely shut him down and you confront him. Ultimately you decide to forgive him and nothing likw that ever happens again. Until the second year.
You and M have had a huge fight and youre venting to G and B. The conversation leds to a topic that promts B to let you know about a situation that happend with her and M. (For context, before you and M got together, he and B had a little flirtatious back and forth that never amounted to anything. Everyone knew this and it was never an issue. They actually were good friends after that and she fell in love with someone) A few months back, on a night when the whole gang was together and drinking, M was in B's ear talking about how they used to flirt and said "If it wasnt her (You), it would have been you (B))"
B shut him down but was afraid to say anything about it to you because she could see how happy you were. He swears that the conversation was misinterpreted. That everything said was just talking about the past, reminiscing.

You decide to end the relationship.

Now ultimately, in both situations, nothing actually happened (cheating) and you love this man. Hes been nothing but good to you. He has his flaws but you know he loves you more than anything....But he also has hit on youre closest friends behind your back while youre both together.

What would you have done?
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PinkMoon · 26-30, F
I would've left him the first time he hit on my friend. The only reason nothing happened between him and your friends was that they rejected him. It's not that he didn't cheat,it's that the people he wanted to cheat with weren't interested in him. He didn't choose to remain faithful, he was denied access. If he's willing to hit on your friends what would keep him from hitting on strangers? And what would/has happened if those strangers were receptive.

You did the right thing and I may not know you but I am proud of you for walking away. The person you believe him to be is also the person he's proven himself to be, someone who is willing to and desires to be unfaithful. You are very blessed to have those two women as friends.
@PinkMoon I really appreciate this. Its been eating me up for a few months now because I didnt know if i overreacted. Ive told myself 'Its not like he slept with them" But it hurt iust the same and he was someone I thought would never hurt me.