Why is it a woman would not tell

It seems that there are quite a few men with the fantasy that they want to see their wives with other men. Now we know that this path may work sometimes, but it is littered with hurt feelings, bruised egos, broken relationships and divorces.

Now I am curious. It seems that sometimes the man is offering/pushing the idea, and the woman appears reticent. Why is it that some women will appear to "contemplate" the offer with no apparent agreement -- but they will be intimate with other men, sometimes one night stands, other times multi-year affairs; BUT not tell the husband/bf who brought the suggestion up.

What do you think - why is that, what are your thoughts on why they would go ahead and do it, but withhold it from the husband/bf?

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MambaJuice · 41-45, M

Man look a lotta dudes out here talkin like they cool with that let my woman be with another man fantasy but deep down they ain’t built for it. They think it’s gonna make em look open minded or confident but when it actually happens that ego take a hit they can’t recover from.

Most the time it ain’t even bout the woman wantin it it’s him tryna feel in control or prove he secure. But when she start enjoyin herself a lil too much or he realize she gettin a different kinda pleasure he never gave her that’s when them insecuritys start eatin him up.

And that’s probly why some women keep it to theyself when they step out. Like he the one who planted the idea but she know if she actually did it and it hit different he wouldn’t be able to handle it. So she stay quiet bout it cuz now it ain’t no fantasy no more it’s real.

Bottom line most these dudes talk that “sharing” talk but they pride and heart ain’t on the same page.

Peter1985 · 36-40, M

@MambaJuice well said

VeronicaJane

@MambaJuice nicely said. Fantasy seldom is the same as reality.