Is it common sibling to feel threatened by a new relationship?
I've been dating my current girlfriend for 3 months and my sister is starting to show some toxic behaviour and so dead set against my happiness.
36-40, M
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
It depends on the nature of the relationship with your sibling. If the sibling is younger used to you spoiling them and catering to their every need. Then yes this is possible.
If you and your sibling were close and now because of the new relationship you are not talking or spending as much time with them, they may feel put out but it's important for you to realise that in the early stages of a relationship this is natural and normal. What's not normal is becoming isolated and not being able to maintain your relationships with family and friends whilst in a relationship with new partner.
If you and said sibling have a very cordial neutral relationship, good but not exactly close then I wouldn't necessarily say so. I mean it can often be a relief for a sibling to get off your back and have their time filled with other things.
The best way for you to really know if something is up in relation to your new relationship. You need to sit down and have a conversation with your sibling addressing the behaviour, let them know how it's appearing to you and figure out how to resolve it.
Good luck with your sibling and your new relationship. I hope it's not something provoked by the new partner.
If you and your sibling were close and now because of the new relationship you are not talking or spending as much time with them, they may feel put out but it's important for you to realise that in the early stages of a relationship this is natural and normal. What's not normal is becoming isolated and not being able to maintain your relationships with family and friends whilst in a relationship with new partner.
If you and said sibling have a very cordial neutral relationship, good but not exactly close then I wouldn't necessarily say so. I mean it can often be a relief for a sibling to get off your back and have their time filled with other things.
The best way for you to really know if something is up in relation to your new relationship. You need to sit down and have a conversation with your sibling addressing the behaviour, let them know how it's appearing to you and figure out how to resolve it.
Good luck with your sibling and your new relationship. I hope it's not something provoked by the new partner.
GohantheThird · M
Yes. Part of it is that they want to protect you from someone who could hurt you, part of it is that they want whats best for you and want to make sure your girl fits the bill. Mostly though they feel threatened by change in dynamics and don't want to deal with your parents making up new rules because of your girlfriend. If they're older (or act like they're older), they're not going to like to have to deal with massive changes or being knocked down in the food chain. Understandable of course, just annoying af.
My advice: talk to your sister. Let her know you still value her and love her as much as a brother can. If mom and dad demand too much of her, tell them that it's not necessary and you can work something out.
My advice: talk to your sister. Let her know you still value her and love her as much as a brother can. If mom and dad demand too much of her, tell them that it's not necessary and you can work something out.
What you think as them feeling threatened may be them trying to protect you (even if misguided).
xbandoleerx · 56-60, M
It is shielding you from danger or harm’s way