I don't think it's naive to believe in a caring, healthy relationship...

With mutual effort, intimacy and communication to support love, I believe people can flourish and grow side by side.

But there's always some reason they have to be cruel. Bad day at work, someone was rude, even if it's just the sniffles, there's always some sharp edge waiting to swipe at the person who loves them most.

I've never experienced a healthy loving relationship, I do still believe it's possible though.

I don't know if it's more disappointing what I've already been through, or the likelihood that the love I'm capable of will never find me, but I still fully believe it's possible.

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BillyMack · 46-50, M

It is possible but you’re right in that it’s probably not the norm. What’s unfortunate is many of us find it easier to not be on our game around those closest to us. I’ve been guilty of that and I don’t like it for sure.

But I believe it’s possible. It has to be.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@BillyMack I think a lot of time it's our traumas that bond us. The validation we get from being loved despite basically abusing each other, mimicking dynamics we're used too...

I fully believe in the possibility. The reality, I don't know, but I know what I'm capable of and can't let go of the spark I need to start that fire, should the possibility arise anyway...