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oogirl · 13-15, F
Talk to her in person and talk it out
Abheem · 31-35, M
@oogirl I actually already spoke to her in person. We had a long conversation where she said she’s unsure about us, mentioned that I’m too quiet for her, and that she’s no longer comfortable moving here like she once was. I tried to be understanding and listen without trying to convince her. At this point, I feel like I’ve already said what I needed to say, now I’m just trying to accept it and find peace.

DoubleRings · 51-55, F
Well I was once her at around your age. Remmeebr we cannot control anyone except ourselves. For me, I had just come out of a relatnsp that was kind of dark and then sooner than expected, found a really awesome guy who really wanted to date but I was hesitant bc I was kind of enjoying being single for a bit. It was really confusing for him and he did not want to let go of me. But he prob should have. Bc the relatnsp was always based on doubt at least on my end, believing I should have been single longer before getting into a relatnsp. It’s all very complicated to explain but the relatnsp ended largely bc of me after 4 years. He was the best man I ever dated and realized it too late and broke his heart in the meantime.

So my advice is just to let her go and let her figure it out. If she’s gone, that’s ok. It will save you a lot of misery by trying while shes putting the brakes on. If she comes back, then great. You can try knowing you’re both on board.
Sounds like she’s just (barely) keeping you around in case no one (she thinks) is better comes along. That alone would make me very comfortable closing the door on her. Let it go. Never settle for being someone’s backup plan.
Omg just tell her you love her.
Abheem · 31-35, M
@SomeMichGuy I don’t think that will change anything. The things she said about not being sure, about me being too quiet for her, those aren’t things that love alone can fix. I’ve already shown I care about her deeply, but I also have to respect what she feels.
@Abheem YES IT WILL

Stop thinking like a loser.

Tell her what you wrote here: you immediately felt a connection, etc.

Don't wish you had told her.

You are tossing your victory into the jaws of defeat.
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Levenrack · 46-50, M
Yeah what @pentagrammom said. 😑 go ahead and move on from her.

 
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