How do you react when someone isn't interested in the thing you're interested in?

I've noticed a few bad interactions happen this way, one was between friends, the other between a boyfriend and girlfriend, but they both went the same way:

One person really cares about something, an issue, a current event, something in their life, they're passionate about it, they like to talk about it. And the other person they're talking to has kind of a tepid response. They don't know anything about the issue, they don't really care, their reaction is "meh". Then the other person gets angry and heated and outraged that the other person doesn't care or isn't interested.

How do YOU react in this situation? What would be a better way to handle someone's lukewarm response to something you're passionate about?

I've seen this happen twice now, and I can't believe it's such a common cause of friction in friendships and relationships.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

I guess it depends on the person. But if it's me who likes something and someone reacts indifferently or negatively about it, I'd back off unless I care enough and suspect I can get them to change their mind and have some appreciation on the subject, especially if I think it would benefit them too in some ways.

But if I focus on myself, then that would be a tell of care or lack of it. Someone who is interested and who cares about you ought to show some enthusiasm, if not on the subject, then on the way that you light up about those passions. They'd want to listen to know about you and understand you and show interest just because they like to be around you when you're feeling like yourself.

But that is easier said than done admittedly. We can care for someone but admit that we don't care as much about people or things that matter a lot to them.
It's an imaginary wall and a reason to evaluate on the relationship actually. You can care, but it can be less than the amount you hope to be able to say you feel.

For the people I feel responsible for, I make time to listen. To inquire and even to bring up what I know are their passions. Why? Simple. I like seeing them happy and letting them feel heard and cared for.