In a relationship, do you expect your partner to meet all your needs?

Would you retaliate, even if you knew they were doing their best?

Would you be upset because they were focused on healing from major losses, healing from cancer/surgeries and they couldn't give to you endlessly because they needed something for themselves and their child?

And because you couldn't have everything you wanted, you just ditch them? Avoid solutions? Push blame?

Does this sound like complete immaturity to you?

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being · 36-40, F

Yeah it does sound like complete immaturity to me... It sounds like they're there for the wrong reasons perhaps ?
I mean there's some middle ground where we all expect our partner to be there for us. But if they're demanding a full-time attention.. something's not right. Maybe a mom syndrome of some sorts ?
We were discussing with a friend the other day about the roles we're met with, the healer/therapist, the mom/dad, the teacher/student and much more and whilst there's some healthy normalcy whereas we all exchange naturally these roles within a relationship, depending on the circumstances... Some just get stuck in one and looking for another to hmm roleplay.

All in all, I'd vote against the person you're describing.

MarbleMarvel

@being Thank you 🖤 I love the depth of truth you are able to share ugh it's such a relief 🤗

There was many times I thought he was looking for more of a caretaker to baby him, rather than a partner. And when he told me he treated me poorly because he didn't feel his needs being met, that alone was repulsive. Not to mention the things I was going through were extremely painful and scary, yet I remained as strong as I could because I had to be a Mom. He punished me with silent treatments, insults, manipulation, gaslighting, avoidance and refusal to listen to my perspective without taking it as an insult.

He complained about his needs not being met when mine never were because of what life took from me. I didn't even require him to meet any of my needs

To me, I meet my needs, a lover/partner is the cherry on top. Someone that makes life a little sweeter.

The fact that he is uninterested in me because I'm not available just shows his inability to hold space for others. And I can't tolerate that.