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Meeting in the middle

We don’t share interests…well, maybe I shouldn’t say that. I have no idea really. There might be something in there he actually likes, but the only thing that lights a spark is football so the rest is anybody’s guess. But I do know he has zero interest in anything I feel compelled to share on occasion. I have a similar disinterest in his shares beyond just that I like the sign of life in him and the sense of honor I always feel when someone I care about trusts me in that way. Now that it’s just us two, though, this dynamic has altered some, and it makes me chuckle. I still mostly spare him because I think it’s harder for him, but this morning I was feeling unusually chatty and decided to tell him about the Moriarty podcast I’m listening to. It has the actors who played Merry and Pippin in it, and he’s suffered through the Lord of the Rings movies with me countless times. Before long there was the usual need to escape so he started wandering toward the stairs with the uh-huhs and okays and then the slowly down one step, then another. On the landing there was an awkward pause and then a polite question about how long a podcast is, and then a “well, sometimes these things just happen” followed by the final trot down the rest of the stairs. 🤣 Tomorrow, odds are I will be summoned from wherever I am in the house to watch a football replay and I’ll be smiling like I have a clue what I’m looking at and say something equally desperate or painfully pointless. 😂😂 I imagine we both think sometimes it would be nice to share these things with a like-minded person, but there is something to be said for the conscious effort of respecting someone different from you enough to try and fill that space. 😌
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Ironicman · 56-60, M
I like this post and have been there but now that the madness of parenthood has subsided we get time to do more together. The starting point for us was simply finding time to talk about things we could plan and do together whilst we can :-) It's good to have your own interests. You're so understanding, things do change and there is life beyond football.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
My wife and I have some interests that overlap - similar interest in some tv dramas, books, music, theatre etc. But she's not interested in my sports etc. Just like I'm not interested in some of her soaps or dance shows etc.

So some we enjoy together some we encourage the other to enjoy when we're apart
JustNik · 51-55, F
@OldBrit That sounds like a lovely balance. 😄
DrWatson · 70-79, M
My wife knows that I "endure" sitting and watching videos of Rob Thomas and Matchbox 20 with her. Afterwards, she thanks me for it! 😅
🎶"Oh yeah...life goes on. Long after the thrill of living is gone"🎵
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SW-User
It’s cute that you’re both still trying though..like that start of a relationship where you’re like “here’s my world what do you think?”..don’t stop
JustNik · 51-55, F
@SW-User we had an awkward spot when the last kid moved out. We’d never lived alone because I already had Ali when we met, and I think we both were waiting for the other to say they wanted out now. Conscious decisions were made. 😂 I think we work better without the kids actually. 🤷‍♀
SW-User
@JustNik I understand. Dynamics change..getting to know each other all over again xx
I can relate to that. You really are a gifted writer, JustNik, you do write outside SW, don' t you?
I used to write more, but life has drained the verve out of me.
JustNik · 51-55, F
@EarthlingWise That’s kind of you - thank you. I don’t write anywhere, but I certainly hope you find your verve!
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
For what it's worth, it sounds like both of your conversations would bore me, hee hee. 🤪

That is, I do not care about football, or TV mysteries.

I love Lord of the Rings, though. Yet the books, not the movies.

😁
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
How long have you been married for?
JustNik · 51-55, F
@LunarOrbit 24 years
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
@JustNik Congratulations!
JustNik · 51-55, F
@LunarOrbit Thank you 🙂

 
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