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Om2014 · 31-35, M
I had similar discussion once with someone, I was of the opinion that u shudnt look at someone else if ur already in a relationship, its abt keeping the integrity of ur relationship, cause if ur slipping in ur mind therz nothing stopping u from slipping in real life once the opportunity presents itself. But I guess guys in general nowadays are not having that self control plus the outside world is too flashy as well.
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PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP
Hahaha. if it were my partner I'd probably just tell her I'm just looking and that she shouldn't worry. I know myself really well so it's like I get bored easily if the flow of conversation isn't interesting enough.
I ended up finding that out on here awhile back because either it was EP or over here I met this girl who was like basically what I was looking for in the looks department and the more I spoke to her the more I realized all I tended ot hear from her was about weed and obtaining it and like... Work.
it was like omfg tell me about your hobbies like what the fuck do you for fun or literally anything I don't know. ended up boring me to tears until I naturally just stopped talking to her.
...means if a girl really has me, she has kept it intellectually stimulating.
I ended up finding that out on here awhile back because either it was EP or over here I met this girl who was like basically what I was looking for in the looks department and the more I spoke to her the more I realized all I tended ot hear from her was about weed and obtaining it and like... Work.
it was like omfg tell me about your hobbies like what the fuck do you for fun or literally anything I don't know. ended up boring me to tears until I naturally just stopped talking to her.
...means if a girl really has me, she has kept it intellectually stimulating.
As0if · 26-30, F
@PDXNative1986 I get you. I know he doesn’t have any intentions with them. It’s just that I find it disrespectful. I can walk around and stare at every other guy, but I swear to you from beginning of our relationship I’m staring at dogs and kids 😂
Also yeah, not everything is about looks 🤷♀️
Also yeah, not everything is about looks 🤷♀️
@As0if Good for you and he will respect you a lot more for standing up for yourself. This guy sounds very controlling but I hope he's not. I just don't like the way he dismissed your concerns. That was very disrespectful. If it's important to you, it should be important to him.
You do whatever feels comfortable for you. Personally I don't mind him looking as long as it's reasonable and not disrespectful. Like following girls social media for example is pretty gross, noticing a beautiful girl in the same room however seems pretty normal. I notice other attractive people myself. It depends a lot on how it's approached ,communicated etc.
As0if · 26-30, F
@PepsiColaP Exactly. But, about pretty girl… he was looking at one pretty girl more often and they both shared looks, multiple times and I got mad, but if I confronted him, I’d be called delusional. And that is the only problem in our relationship. “Its just looking” he would say, no it’s not, it’s disrespect. So now I’m being disrespectful too and see where it heads to 😂
@As0if yeah ,no. maintaining eye contact to the point she feels comfortable to do that too its gross.
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
In a relationship and my experience through a nervous breakdown I got ( no one at fault ) I don't like the word blame , but in a relationship you yourself have to have ROOTS the relationship will go from side to side and rip you apart but once you have ROOTS you will never fall apart .
Unfortunately I learned that after .
I'm on my own these days but in relationship you have too look at it like TREE ( branches will fall off once there's ROOTS you'll stay solid cause that's what relationships are about branches falling off and they grow back again .
The question about growing back is TIME and your back too your ROOTS .
Everything about life is there through the MIDDLE AGES and it's basically thought by nature.
Like the Sea and people's mood swings .
That's over humans has 80%. water in us and our bodies are like the waves .
Everything goes back to nature .
Unfortunately I learned that after .
I'm on my own these days but in relationship you have too look at it like TREE ( branches will fall off once there's ROOTS you'll stay solid cause that's what relationships are about branches falling off and they grow back again .
The question about growing back is TIME and your back too your ROOTS .
Everything about life is there through the MIDDLE AGES and it's basically thought by nature.
Like the Sea and people's mood swings .
That's over humans has 80%. water in us and our bodies are like the waves .
Everything goes back to nature .
in10RjFox · M
Great realisation and a revelation for you and that you got rid of your possessiveness in you. Rules are human made and not by nature. We are all made as individuals for that reason.. to live life the way we want.
So don't rule others for you only get to rule them and don't let any rule you.
So don't rule others for you only get to rule them and don't let any rule you.
Gingerbreadspice · F
I only have eyes for one person but I can notice other men. Sometimes even women even though I’m straight, it’s only admiring like other men as well. The same as I have a car but admire other cars and have a lovely dog but still admire other dogs. Or be eating something at a restaurant and see someone eating something else that looks good.
exexec · 70-79, C
@As0if No. We were in different colleges and I only saw her once or twice a month. She was free to date when I was not available. She would date a guy until he got serious and then dump him and date another one. We agreed during the middle of her junior year in college that she would stop dating others.
eMortal · M
I know a woman who is like your boyfriend. Even when she's in love, she welcomes any attention given to her by random strangers as long as she finds him hot. Sometimes she gets carried away.
I don't think they do it on purpose. Some people are naturally polyamorous, I think. One partner would never be enough for them. They constantly need a new stimulus. They are addicted to that rush of meeting/dating someone new.
I don't think they do it on purpose. Some people are naturally polyamorous, I think. One partner would never be enough for them. They constantly need a new stimulus. They are addicted to that rush of meeting/dating someone new.
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
As0if · 26-30, F
@Muthafukajones Exactly!
black4white · 56-60, M
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Every man looks, some are simply more casual with their glances versus the droolers.
Think of some women as beautiful flowers. There’s nothing wrong with appreciation or admiring. It’s natural. There would be a problem with picking. There are many things in nature that are beautiful. Women are just one.
If he’s an untactful ogler, it might be best to find your own flower - simply one without thorns.
Think of some women as beautiful flowers. There’s nothing wrong with appreciation or admiring. It’s natural. There would be a problem with picking. There are many things in nature that are beautiful. Women are just one.
If he’s an untactful ogler, it might be best to find your own flower - simply one without thorns.
onewithshoes · 22-25, F
As long as it's just casual looking it's harmless, and should not provoke jealousy or insecurity or presumptions about what ones partner might be thinking.
As0if · 26-30, F
@onewithshoes Causal as in look for a second, turn head and never look again, then yes 😂
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
As0if · 26-30, F
@KingofBones1 True. And I did, now I’m checking out everything around me 😂
ABCDEF7 · M
This just defines your commitment in your relationship, and the integrity of your character.
tfan123 · 46-50, M
Just remember. It’s like window shopping - you can look all you want but you can’t have it. 😉👍🙂
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
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