how am I supposed to deal with this Just so occasionally you meet a woman with whom you just...

how am I supposed to deal with this

Just so occasionally you meet a woman with whom you just connect. and then when the conversation develops they suddenly start talking about their husbands How am I supposed to deal with that when they declare themselves off limits there and then.......

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Tracos · 51-55, M

@Carissimi thank you for the kind response. the bloody hell is about the hope for connection being pounded again and again

there is no expectation, only developing hope that gets ground down. and yes they are always good conversation as they are typically good people, and occasionally the spark of a hope for more

Carissimi · F

@OogieBoogie He didn’t say he was trying to find love. He said he had a conversation, and when she mentions her husband he somehow has to deal with it. Did he tell her upfront that he only wants to talk with potential mates? I think you are conflating two different things here.

OogieBoogie · F

@Carissimi No, i dont think i am .
And no one, bar a [b]very [/b] blunt person would say upfront they "only want to talk to potential mates", thats rude.

Not all men are looking only for masturbatory fodder. One can tell from his morals of being disappointed that she was married, that he implies something deeper.
A man looking for something shallower would not have any qualms about that.

Many men, like women and others, hope to find a life partner, someone to share their life with.

The fact that he avoided saying it outrightly is an obvious nuance of him being ethical and dissapointed while not putting his desire and hope up for sale.