What I'm realizing..
I have been putting alot weight on my self.. that I'm the problem... but it's not that simple.
I'm working on myself, I have been working on myself for the past 10 years and still am to this day.
It's shown in how far I've come.
My partner has her flaws, and I've avoided thinking about them, or even identifying them. I always just thought to myself, I could encourage her to grow.. but that obviously hasn't worked.
There are many things about her that are great, so please don't infer that I'm trying to paint her as a bad person. I'm simply venting.
Things I can't stand..
1 - She doesn't have any friends, and she avoids making friends. She keeps to herself, her brother, sister, mother and me. Outside of this she has no circle. She doesn't even get close to my sisters or mother.. It's as if they're not family. She just stays home and takes care of our daughter.
2 - She has no ambitions.
3 - She's not as religious as she made herself to appear when I first met her. I had hoped she would have been able to help me get better, spiritually. Turned out she was as bad as me, except I was straight up about it.
4- i cant talk to her on an intellectual level. She's extremely emotional. As an INTJ, this drives me crazy. Even when i try to tap into expressing the way i feel, shes not capable of understanding, or providing the comfort i need. She's too judgey about it. And that may be my fault since ive always portrayed myself as a protector... to everyone.. a hero complex, and not being able to show the side of me that you all see of me on here.
Things I like:
1- great mother
2- great house wife.
(no she does not work currently)
3- she cares for me and loves me.
I'll be expanding on this overtime, as they come to my mind. I'm at a point where I need to identify everything that I cant stand. Otherwise, I won't be able to effectively communicate it.
Idk if this ends up with us staying together or not, but at least it'll get me to eventually make a decision on what "I" want moving forward.
I'm working on myself, I have been working on myself for the past 10 years and still am to this day.
It's shown in how far I've come.
My partner has her flaws, and I've avoided thinking about them, or even identifying them. I always just thought to myself, I could encourage her to grow.. but that obviously hasn't worked.
There are many things about her that are great, so please don't infer that I'm trying to paint her as a bad person. I'm simply venting.
Things I can't stand..
1 - She doesn't have any friends, and she avoids making friends. She keeps to herself, her brother, sister, mother and me. Outside of this she has no circle. She doesn't even get close to my sisters or mother.. It's as if they're not family. She just stays home and takes care of our daughter.
2 - She has no ambitions.
3 - She's not as religious as she made herself to appear when I first met her. I had hoped she would have been able to help me get better, spiritually. Turned out she was as bad as me, except I was straight up about it.
4- i cant talk to her on an intellectual level. She's extremely emotional. As an INTJ, this drives me crazy. Even when i try to tap into expressing the way i feel, shes not capable of understanding, or providing the comfort i need. She's too judgey about it. And that may be my fault since ive always portrayed myself as a protector... to everyone.. a hero complex, and not being able to show the side of me that you all see of me on here.
Things I like:
1- great mother
2- great house wife.
(no she does not work currently)
3- she cares for me and loves me.
I'll be expanding on this overtime, as they come to my mind. I'm at a point where I need to identify everything that I cant stand. Otherwise, I won't be able to effectively communicate it.
Idk if this ends up with us staying together or not, but at least it'll get me to eventually make a decision on what "I" want moving forward.
