How do i help myself and move on?

Spouse dumped me and wanna take the kids.. thing is he never helped take care of them... never bathe them, mixed bottled etc... How do I move on with two kids... i don't have much friends to lean on or talk to... and i feel lonely and helpless..

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mindlessdrifter · M

They have county offices that will help with that if you qualify. Also many churches provide services to single mothers. You will gain a network of people that will provide support. Sorry you have to go through that 😞

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@mindlessdrifter im ok when im around company... being in a room with two kids is lovely...but demanding and I need to refuel.. right now i just dont want him to get the kids as im always with them except when I'm not working

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

I need company to be around

mindlessdrifter · M

@destinyfabulous I totally understand. It sounds very toxic and I hope you get the help. I am sure it is not easy. Keeping my fingers crossed

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@destinyfabulous It might be a trick so you will have to pay him child support instead of him paying you. For now get your own bank accout get your name off joint credit card or other things , If anything go after shared custody and if you both make the same money than maybe no alumony

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@updown2020 thanks hun... we both work and have separate accounts and no joint assets...

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@destinyfabulous How about the place you live in do you own or rent that place and who owns it?

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@updown2020 we are renting... i can go back to my moms place..

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@destinyfabulous Okay but is your mom's house big enough for the kids well how old are they now?