Polyamory and open relationships

@dannysens Think you guys have got both Polyamory and Open relationship in the wrong sense. You gaining pleasure watching your wife have sex, comes under voyeurism, which is no different from people watching live porn. It also means that you have nothing else better to do in life, other than watching your wife have sex.

You are not in polyamory or open relationship, the moment you consider someone your wife.

@in10RjFox no actually you can be legally married and poly..... You can also be married and allow a open relationship..... My partner and I plan to be married and also have a girlfriend...... So yea you can. As long as it's safe sane and consensual you can do whatever the hell you want with your partners 😂 including being married and having multiple partners

@chickiegirl95 marriage is per se monogamy. A true open relationship is when you have a private contract. Swinging outside of marriage is not PA or OR. There has to be love and a relationship and also a commitment.

Only monogamy gives rise to the possessiveness, to claim someone as wife.

In PA or OR, one minds their business, and not bother what other does.

@in10RjFox that's not true at all. If you are monogamous and married you can choose to stay that way if you are poly you can still be poly. Hell you can even be hierarchy polyamorous. Meaning one partner is essentially the lead partner and the others are not. Again this is consented among every partner in the relationship . Or you can choose to add a gf or bf into the mix. If you want to be open you can still be married and choose to allow your partner to have sex with others. Each person can choose to do as they like with their relationship. Same with swingers. I know many married swingers and many poly married couples. If the time comes and someone chooses to marry a secondary partner they can have a marriage ceremony. Or commitment ceremony and get their last name legally changed. On taxes they'll only be married to one but they can share last names and hold the same commitment.

@in10RjFox to add yes monogamy holds possessiveness but that far from means that you aren't allowed to love an individual and choose to make them your wife solely based on wanting to have multiple people to love. If that were the case polygamy wouldn't be real either .....

@chickiegirl95 You are talking about how things are, and not how things should be. Also PA is not about sex, but more about love. And open relationship is between married partners only, where they agree mutually that theirs is not closed relationship. In OR, a married partner does not dictate the other. But in PA, you are in love with many. Hope you can understand the distinguishing factor.

@in10RjFox yes. I can I've been in the lifestyle for years. There is a deep connection and love between my partner and I and our gf. She ironically doesn't desire to be married but loves us dearly (bad previous situation) and wants to stay with us. She's in full support of us getting married. Open is never really my goal but I honestly wouldn't care. I dont ever plan to own my future husband his body is his as long as we stay safe, sane, and consensual and clean in all of it. Along with open and honest.

@chickiegirl95 The problem is the marriage system that is traditionally and ritually followed, without questioning why it is required.

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@in10RjFox ik the marriage system is broken unfortunately. Things are taking place though Google NY polyamory rights! Finally these relationships are gqining traction

@chickiegirl95 Not in the right direction. Nobody has a clue how to solve it. I am working to bring down the marriage institution itself. It's a bloody haunted house that's ruining the life of humanity.

@in10RjFox it is. And the way it practically punishes you for being married. I qualified for no college aid once I married cause my man was supposed to provide enough for me 🤮

@in10RjFox I feel like this individual though does fall under a kink rather than open or poly for sure