Does guilt eventually get to people?

Not always. The person needs to be introspective and open to learning about themselves, a lot of people find that frightening. The important thing for you, is to understand that you can’t control your external environment - you were born into a certain age and time and these are the circumstances in which you have to experience life. You can’t fundamentally change people either or control how they are or what they do. What you do have control over is yourself and how you respond to things. It doesn’t always feel like a choice but if you really think about it, by and large, it is a choice how you respond to impetus’ from everything and everyone external to you.

People are also always projecting on others. If someone has really hurt you, stop to consider that they are communicating something about themselves - for example, I have a longstanding fear of not being able to manage independently. I can get anxious about keeping a roof over my head or feeding my family. When my child is just doing nothing all day, I sometimes explode and give a lecture on life and what success looks like and not wasting opportunities etc. What I am actually doing is transferring my anxiety around survival to my child. Sometimes the projection is positive but more often than not, it’s incredibly destructive.

If someone hurts you, you don’t need to worry about whether that person feels bad, that’s their job. Their life experience is theirs. You need to understand that you don’t need to absorb what isn’t fairly your stuff to deal with. You need to work on yourself, keep learning and doing a bit better every day.

My ex used to regularly tell me that if I left him, it would be a mistake because I would never amount to anything and I was weak and would be an awful mother. A year after our daughter was born, I left him and moved on. Being a single parent was very tough at times but I worked hard and raised my child. He on the other hand has struggled on his own over the years. He’s never had a dependable job or sufficient income to help support our child. He saw her regularly but hasn’t been able to contribute in a meaningful way to make her life and growth possible.

So you see his deepest fears, which he dreaded were projected onto me. Through being unable to take a good look at himself and focus on his own challenges, they have instead played out in his life even though he tried hard to soothe himself by projecting on me.

Projection doesn’t always play out in this way but it’s an example to help you understand that you shouldn’t allow yourself to absorb the viciousness of others. Of course it hurts and of course you will react emotionally but practice being able to view the situation from a distance, as a third person observing yourself and the other person and see what you can learn from the dynamic and ask yourself if it’s your responsibility to care about what the other person actually feels about their behaviour. Are you spending your emotions and time in the most effective and appropriate way?

Not everyone. Some simply believe their actions were justified.

Some people will feel guilty, while others don’t care at all. It depends on the person. Then again, what can they do with that guilt? If it’s something in the past that they can’t fix or change, then it’s futile to let it eat away at them. The best they can do is to be a better person now, in the present.

Yes i think about what i did every day

It's sad , but the guilt memories sneak up more than the good ones .

If the conscience is still breathing, then I can say yes.

Depends on the character of that person.

Sometimes

Depends on the person