DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO HIM ON THE PHONE!!!!!!!

I’ve been going on dates with this guy and about once a week he texts me to ask if he can call me so then we talk on the phone and after the end of our conversation before we hang up he always says I have a question for you. And this is starting to give me anxiety to talk to him on the phone. He’ll ask stuff like what are we, is this enough for you, can we start having a physical relationship, why did you and your last boyfriend break up and how long did you guys go out for. He says he knows I hate his questions, but yet he continues to ask them at the end of every phone call anyway! Should I start telling him I can’t talk on the phone when he asks? cause I get anxiety when he says that cause I know I have some question to answer at the end of the conversation.

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ProfessorSwatz · 31-35, M

Super red flag in a man.
All those questions he is asking, Don’t NEVER answer questions about why like this when they’re going about like this.
Because the only thing that’s going to happen in the end is he is going to choose least hurtful way that’s familiar to you to end it either before it starts into something real or After he gets what he wants. If he is asking bout physical already and asking these questions, he already has you in a zone labeled “possibly or temporary”
He marked you for the sex zone and hoping he gets what he wants.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@ProfessorSwatz thanks for your help. I really appreciate it. Why are these considered red flags? He told me as far as our physical relationship he’s looking for mostly kissing in the car but I know what he’s probably hoping that leads to. So I just said I’m not ready for that yet I still enjoy just getting to know one another.

ProfessorSwatz · 31-35, M

@Fifidog if he had been interested in you genuinely, then after you voiced it the first time he would’ve respected it. If he is constantly asking and settin off your anxiety he has no respect for your boundaries. Which is a red flag.
Physical kissin leads to touching and if he this ansy then touching will come much faster than anticipated.
You only have to voice your boundaries ONE TIME!

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@ProfessorSwatz he says okay he’ll respect my decisions but then asks again after like 2 weeks which is annoying and I just say what I said the previous time. Him asking me questions on the phone knowing I don’t like it by my tone is what’s setting off my anxiety to talk to him on the phone. Should I tell him next time I’m busy I can’t talk on the phone tonight?

ProfessorSwatz · 31-35, M

@Fifidog with Men, You have to Be Direct!
He isn’t respecting your boundaries so next time you talk to him, let him know, You don’t wanna talk on the phone because he can’t respect it, for now you guys can text, but you will call when you feel comfortable again.
He will either respect it or leave