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Torn between 2 women what should I do?

Hey this is my first post here. I used to be on EP years ago. And this site looks similar. I had a question.

I am autistic in my 30's and single. Never had a girlfriend before. After listening to Jordan Peterson I realized I didnt wanna ever be alone anymore and how miserable I am. Still in college and live alone. I got housing assistance from an local organization last year and my housing navigator was a girl my age named "Elizabeth". She was also autistic and going to the same school for different major and was graduating with her bachelors. She was flirting with me and I didnt realize it until a month after our last meeting. She told me she was leaving to work at CPS. She gave me a black tourmaline to protect me in our last meeting. She said she was an empath. Very sweet girl and I didnt get the message until a month later when I talked about it with someone and they said "hey I think she liked you!" And I got really depressed then I got fired from my long time job and ever since then Ive been in a bad depression.

I was going on apps trying to make friends I met this lady "Hayley" who is a single mom and 4 years older than me with a 6 year old son. Kids dad is still in his sons life after divorce and hes a cop. She is also on the spectrum. We met last Saturday and she initiated and wanted my number. We texted and I texted her yesterday after a week and she was surprised and said she thought I didnt want to text her. We talked on the phone for first time. She wants me to get a job with her company. She says she is moving to my city soon. Shes a social worker.

I like Hayley shes really nice but I dont know if I am ready to be a stepdad to a 6 year old. I also feel like I really need closure with Elizabeth. I cant get her out of my mind. Its now been over a year. What should I do?

I was thinking of calling Elizabeth. There is a public employee directory of government employees. I searched her name and she still works at CPS and I saw her work number. Should I call her? I don't know anyway to get ahold of her because her old email from the housing agency is inactive and she had to turn in her work phone. Or is it a bad idea? I just really need closure with Elizabeth. Even if she rejected me I would feel better but I am afraid of that rejection you know?
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in10RjFox · M
Why do you think she would want you as her son's stepdad.. maybe she just wants you as a lover and that too you are not sure yet ..

Just experience all that you get to without any commitment. Cross the bridge when you come to it. Today's world is all about multiple secret lovers.. don't mix things up too early.
onionsonyourburger · 31-35, M
@in10RjFox I don’t want something casual
in10RjFox · M
@onionsonyourburger you may not want something casual, but you can't control the perspective of others. And seriousness get built over time for there is a passing cloud phase in everything. So the art of living is being flexible and not rigid. Every action or inaction of yours has a consequence which you need to face. Many things are beyond our control in life today as people take decisions at rapid pace to fulfill their need for the moment. Long term plans never work and only disappoints and I see many changing plans within a short time. So take it easy.