Learn to enjoy your company. Maybe consider doing whatever it is you always wanted to try. Learn something new you find interesting. Basically, stay active.
Some relationships (and perhaps other experiences) use to be (or to be remembered) as a blend were is not easy to trace each "factor". Try to make a reflection to find....... What good things do you miss that were in the same convo (and person) with the abuse BUT can be found without it. Harder to recognize and to accept from ourselves, what in the abusive behavior haves some kind of hidden attraction for you.
@ElRengo yup ,those behaviors which I consider normal or maybe I was used to subconsciously enjoy....I woke up from that deep shit when my mental health got terribly disturb
I´ve seen more than a few cases of people, specially women but not only, subconsciously looking to reproduce some of those abusive conditions in next relationships. Or......to avoid them in a way that they closed themselves to other better experiences cos triggers.
That´s why I´ve said that breaking with some old wounds may need of reflection of all it´s sides, includding what we may have enjoyed.
Not sure I have anything good that will work for you but .. know life is better on the other side. Focus on what you want, what makes you happy. It's not easy to see, but it's there.
I don't always believe it myself, but I know it's true. I'm snuggled with my dog who wants nothing more than to eat, bark, lick, and snuggle. He's cute and wants love.
Healing comes at your pace . Do what you feel your able to do on a daily basis for healing cause if your looking for the quick fix all you’ ll get is more frustrated with yourself and that can lead into other addictions to avoid the pain of healing
Keep active with social situations and people. Read books that make you feel good. Take a bath or shower. Find ways to clear your mind. Chamomile tea works well too
Stay strong and stay positive. Keep away from negativity. Keep in touch with people who has positive attitude and can support you. Have faith in yourself. You will do fine.
Find activiyies/hobby you can do outside your home Don't increase drinking/ drug use (not saying that you do these already) Focus on your needs & health (and you kids of you have them)
