Am I overreacting or is my bf an asss

It’s my bf birthday and he was venting to me about how much his family sucks cause they don’t plan anything for his birthday cause they think birthdays are only for little kids so I offered and said let’s me and you do something for your birthday let’s go out to eat and he said okay. Then 30 minutes later he calls me to tell me his older brother just called and invited him over his house to order him some pizza so they can hangout for his birthday. Me and him already had plans. That kind of stung my heart. He then said we can do something later on after that like at 8:30. He knows I have a curfew. Am I overreacting for wanting to do something with him on his birthday I feel as if he chose his brother over me or just threw out plans to the curb. Then to add to it he told me his dad told him that I just wanted to celebrate today with him cause I wanted a free dinner date when in reality I was gonna take my bf out and my bf knew that. Am I overreacting or is my bf being an asss? I feel like he could’ve easily told his brother he was gonna go out to eat with me but could go to his house after our date.

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SomeMichGuy · M

No. He was an ass.
He needs to choose the relationship before other things.

He should have been happy that you were listening & trying to help him.

Colemanchloe326

@SomeMichGuy I just feel pretty upset about that happening I feel as if he doesn’t prioritize me should I tell him or let it go

SomeMichGuy · M

@Colemanchloe326 I think if he is unable to choose you when *you* listened, *you* cared, and *you* tried to fix his stated problem AND GIVE HIM A HAPPY BIRTHDAY...then he has shown you everything you need to know.

You have empathy for him; he had none for you.

If he had talked it over with you, that would have at least shown that he was sensitive to _your_ feelings, and that he wanted to honor your offer.

But he never gave you the chance.

If that's how he treats you when it *is* important to him...how will he treat you when it *ISN'T*??

It's sad, but no one forced him to be an ass. He chose assdom. He could have been a hero, he chose to be a 0.