What's that weird motivation to act out frustration about past relationships?

Already with one where she held back with facts like her being a single mom, being overweight, ADHD, uneducated, unemployed, broke etc. but then later with a woman who had practically everything but the patience for me to get there as well. Since she "left" me because I didn't find a job within like 6 weeks (I just finished 7 damn years of college) and actually seemed quite eager behind my back to hope for me to ask her out, but for what? Asking for money because I wouldn't focus on job search? It seems to me like no woman out there would wait for goals to be reached when focusing on establishing a relationship 🤷‍♂️