Why can鈥檛 I have more than one boyfriend at the same time and see what鈥檚 best for me 馃槀馃槀馃槀 I get having one husband and one family
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AlchemyFox 路 36-40, F
I remember my grandma (she鈥檚 96) telling me about dating multiple men in her young years. That鈥檚 how people dated. If you decided to be exclusive you committed. Nowadays you meet a man and a week later he鈥檚 dropping the L bomb. Everything is expected to be so serious when I鈥檓 reality you need time to get to know someone. And if there鈥檚 more than one, you should be honest about it. We all lose someone we like sometimes but is it ever the end of the world? No.
SalttyDawg 路 70-79, M
@AlchemyFox The more the better 馃憤
Cherryblossom10 路 22-25, F
@AlchemyFox okay that鈥檚 fair I鈥檒l try be honest about it ..
DrWatson 路 70-79, M
@AlchemyFox But there was another aspect to the custom in your grandmother's day.
Back then, "nice girls" and "gentlemen" were expected to view premarital sex as wrong.
So casually dating lots of people was actually a sign of being virtuous, as presumably it meant you were not getting too intimate with any one of them.
But, it did give people time to get to know each other before "going steady", which used to mean "almost engaged."
Young people today strike me as in a bind. On the one hand, there is pressure to have sex after just a few dates. On the other hand, many want to reserve sex for a meaningful committed relationship. There's a contradiction there, and I think that's one reason the L bomb gets dropped so soon.
Back then, "nice girls" and "gentlemen" were expected to view premarital sex as wrong.
So casually dating lots of people was actually a sign of being virtuous, as presumably it meant you were not getting too intimate with any one of them.
But, it did give people time to get to know each other before "going steady", which used to mean "almost engaged."
Young people today strike me as in a bind. On the one hand, there is pressure to have sex after just a few dates. On the other hand, many want to reserve sex for a meaningful committed relationship. There's a contradiction there, and I think that's one reason the L bomb gets dropped so soon.