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PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
You two need to figure out how to address conflict without it turning into a shouting match and hurting each other. There are plenty of resources on ideas on how to do that.
Focus on the problem and use statements like "I feel X when X happens"
Don't use accusatory statements like "You do X"
Don't use generalizations "you always do X"
Think about possible different approaches to resolve the cause of the conflict. You know how it is right now is not working so work as a team to figure out different ways to accomplish it.
But silence just postpones the inevitable and just allows negative emotions to fester and get worse and so the same cycle repeats.
Trust me. The silent treatment can kill a relationship just as easily and the only difference is you won't see it till you realize you no longer know how to talk to the person you share a house with but no longer know or understand.
Focus on the problem and use statements like "I feel X when X happens"
Don't use accusatory statements like "You do X"
Don't use generalizations "you always do X"
Think about possible different approaches to resolve the cause of the conflict. You know how it is right now is not working so work as a team to figure out different ways to accomplish it.
But silence just postpones the inevitable and just allows negative emotions to fester and get worse and so the same cycle repeats.
Trust me. The silent treatment can kill a relationship just as easily and the only difference is you won't see it till you realize you no longer know how to talk to the person you share a house with but no longer know or understand.
Sepia · 36-40, F
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow I agree with you.