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Is it just my mental issues or am I really being tricked

This 1 guy I've been talking to for several months and am now sort of intimate with, now keeps sending me snips of conversation with these other girls we both know. And these girls are trying to seduce him in these texts. He asks me what I should do about it. We're not committed yet so I tell him it's on him. I asked him if it is not consensual and makes him uncomfortable he should be firm with them because it counts as hara.ssment. Stuff like that. But here's the catch. He never shows me the texts HE sends them. If I ask for context he doesn't respond or says "she just randomly started texting me this", to which I try to help him with a response, as he literally asks me what he should say. But then he ends up not saying it. I ask him well then what DID you say? But he never responds.. Or says something but doesn't send a snippet like he does with the women's messages. He never shows me the full conversation. Just snippets that apparently show how badly those women want him. That just sounds sus to me. But what if he's not lying? I don't want to accuse an alleged victim of se.xual harassment that they're responsible for this. But then again I have serious trust issues because men have not been loyal to the women of my family. But then that also makes me feel I'm probably thinking too much based on my past trauma. But then again what if it's a real gut feeling that in dismissing as over thinking? But then again what I'm I'm victim blaming?
Ugh. I don't know.
deadgerbil · 26-30
I'm guessing that maybe he's sharing those to primarily see how you react, like if you tell him to stop talking to other girls, given your sort of intimate thing with him.

If it is serious, he has a bizarre way of going about telling it. Really no reason for him not to provide the full context if it's actually serious.
That sounds awful. It doesn’t sound like it feels good at all. If you’ve experienced past traumas, being with someone who doesn’t respect that is hurtful. Only sharing half truths is a lie.

My smart ass would tell him to leave me out of it and get up with me when he’s done being a childish wanker.
Seriously? This dick is playing with your emotions, to feel good and entitled about himself. He wants to see your jealousy over him to feel good about himself. No Sane person will ever, breach some one's privacy like that. Also, no one dare transgress like that into some one personal space, if they are not given equal space.
Who knows, he shows yours or other text messages to these other girls, just to enjoy a competition for him.
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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
@Reflection2 mje logon ki smj nhi ati. Ajeeb dunia h. I really like him. 😞 But there he goes, ruining his chances with me. Then he's gonna go complain about it and be confounded as to why he doesn't get a loyal bi.tch.
@assemblingaknob janay dho. Never chase a guy or girl. This is what I believe. Agar banday ka bacha hota tu atna b cheap n hota. Bohat Hain larkay ladies k Lia 😂
I think it's reasonable to ask him what his object is in sharing only part of these conversations, and, particularly, why he refuses to share his answers back, even when asked, which seems as though he is simply being disingenuous.

Perhaps he's trying to provoke a reaction from you...that could be because he wants you to initiate moving the relationship forward/is testing your level of feelings or commitment...or perhaps he is trying to keep you in his online "stable"...

It could be good or his ego...or his "ego amo vos"...
SW-User
So you're cheating on me
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
@SW-User I I I I I I can explain!
eMortal · M
Stay away from the dude.

 
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