Seven dimensions of dealbreakers that people avoid when seeking new partners (Csajbók & Berkics, 2022). Which one is yours?
Unambitious. Looking for love? Indecisive, purposeless potential partners need not apply. For most people, an unambitious partner is an undesirable partner, particularly in long-term contexts. Indeed, for casual affairs, people care much less about ambition and it may not factor into short-term relationship decision making.
Hostile. Being wicked, unfriendly, grumpy, or malicious is unlikely a successful tactic for securing a partner. People perceive hostility as highly undesirable... less undesirable than filthy partners, but more undesirable than unambitious partners.
Filthy. People don't want dirty, messy, bad-smelling partners. For both men and women, this factor was the strongest turn-off both within short-term relationships and long-term relationships.
Arrogant. When looking for a partner, best to leave your ego at the door. People are not interested in dating arrogant others, although men might be less concerned about arrogance in their long-term or short-term partners relative to women.
Clingy. Overly dependent partners are a turn-off, but it seems this trait is not as problematic as some of the other primary dealbreakers. People find it undesirable, but rate other dealbreakers as more problematic; clingy is more of an issue in short-term than long-term contexts.
Unattractive. It makes sense that if people want attractive partners, they probably don't want unattractive partners. The unattractiveness of a potential partner appears strongly influential in men's long-term and short-term relationship decisions. For women, unattractiveness was especially problematic in short-term relationships (less so for potential long-term relationships).
Abusive. Having a potentially abusive partner is an especially strong non-starter for women seeking short-term or long-term relationships. Along with not wanting filthy partners (or unattractive in short-term contexts), not wanting abusive partners ranks as a number one "must not have" dealbreaker.
Hostile. Being wicked, unfriendly, grumpy, or malicious is unlikely a successful tactic for securing a partner. People perceive hostility as highly undesirable... less undesirable than filthy partners, but more undesirable than unambitious partners.
Filthy. People don't want dirty, messy, bad-smelling partners. For both men and women, this factor was the strongest turn-off both within short-term relationships and long-term relationships.
Arrogant. When looking for a partner, best to leave your ego at the door. People are not interested in dating arrogant others, although men might be less concerned about arrogance in their long-term or short-term partners relative to women.
Clingy. Overly dependent partners are a turn-off, but it seems this trait is not as problematic as some of the other primary dealbreakers. People find it undesirable, but rate other dealbreakers as more problematic; clingy is more of an issue in short-term than long-term contexts.
Unattractive. It makes sense that if people want attractive partners, they probably don't want unattractive partners. The unattractiveness of a potential partner appears strongly influential in men's long-term and short-term relationship decisions. For women, unattractiveness was especially problematic in short-term relationships (less so for potential long-term relationships).
Abusive. Having a potentially abusive partner is an especially strong non-starter for women seeking short-term or long-term relationships. Along with not wanting filthy partners (or unattractive in short-term contexts), not wanting abusive partners ranks as a number one "must not have" dealbreaker.
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