Why am I getting passes made at me as soon as I'm in a relationship

So I talked things out with the girl I'm seeing and it turns out there were severe misunderstandings on both sides. I really liked the way we were able to handle our first conflict. And she made me promise to not hold things inside when I feel hurt and bring them up so we can talk things out as soon as they happen instead of letting resentment fester. Which is something I honestly have to work on. Well long story short we're an official couple now.

Well, since then, and especially after my performance on Saturday (lol) I've been getting random women (well not completely random, I just knew them in passing but was not friends with them) getting my number from "somewhere" and hitting me up. Asking me out to "coffee chats" and the likes. Lol. I guess asking someone to coffee is the most innocent way to ask them out on a date without it being a date. Should I deny them all or just go along and then cut them off when they're explicit? I don't want to be the "I have a girlfriend" guy that isn't capable of having any other female friend.

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Ynotisay · M Best Comment

That's a conversation between you and your girlfriend. If you don't want to have the conversation then you respectfully decline the invitations. You're either in or out in a relationship unless you're open and honest about it. If you have trust with each other you can absolutely have female friends. If you don't, or you're keeping stuff to yourself, then being in a relationship isn't the call.

somedude15 · 26-30, M

@Ynotisay I told my girlfriend about it and we laughed at them together. Problem solved lol

Ynotisay · M

@somedude15 That's the way to do it. And to toss it out there? A woman who would laugh with you about something like that? That's a really good quality, you know? Good luck.

markansas

when you got into a full time relationship you became off the market..
you were the forbidden fruit . woman can not resist.. now
MIND YOUR MANNERS you got a lady now. talk to her first and who knows what might happen.

Ynotisay · M

@markansas When I was married I learned very fast that a wedding ring is a freaking magnet for certain types of women. Blew my mind.

Jeephikelove · 51-55, F

First off, that’s fantastic that you communicate so well together!

Second when you’re happy your energy is attractive, so that’s why you’re getting hit on now. 😊

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

You’re glowing and relaxed and chicks can sense that vibe . You have confidence bc you have a gf and chicks pick up on that too .

Sydnee

Certain types of woman like that

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somedude15 · 26-30, M

@SW-User oh I'm definitely not trying to give anyone hope. At the same time, I don't want to misread anyone's intentions and be the obnoxious guy that can't have female friends because he's in a relationship. Some of these women are in my youth fellowship so I will still have to be in contact with them. It's just funny how a lot of them suddenly want to private message me now.

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