The New World of Connection
I've been having this thought a lot recently that I felt like sharing. The way the facilitation of romantic connection feels fairly reminiscent of times gone by, albeit maybe possessing less class than times gone by.
1. Man meets woman
2. Man displays charm, wit, intelligence, humour and compassion.
3. Woman displays warmth, passion, admiration, support, empathy, sweetness and elegance.
4. A mutualistic agreement is reached for the two to date.
5. The rest shortly becomes history.
The element I leave out of this process is that, regardless of the specification of the traits, it's typically the man that does the asking. While this still makes sense today, it doesn't make quite as much sense as it did in times gone by. In times where women were considered as mothers in waiting and not much else, to the discredit of history, men would seek out the women they desired to be their companions. However the popularity of authors like Jane Austen, illustrated a much more beautiful depiction. Instead of a logical move for men and women to get married, authors of such ilk would ironically romanticise the idea of romance. Fundamentally, this is a much more healthy grounding for a relationship than simple convenience or the effort of keeping a family like running. Nonetheless, the point I'm working my way towards is that times have changed. Women and men, by and large in most first world countries, are on a level playing field to men. While there are some minor discrepancies here and there and while some countries still have progression in need, this point retains its substance. In this vein, it's my personal belief that there should be more of an encouragement for women to seek out the kind of men they would like to partner with. I can wager that most men have NEVER been asked out by a woman and some have grown tired of the repetitious nature of simply the effort of trying to date, let alone "successfully dating." For a woman of calibre to express interest in a man, at least as far as my particular associations go, is borderline unheard of. Despite this, it would be not only incredibly refreshing, but would also inspire hope in many forlorn men who are hitting that wall of wondering whether it is actually all just a fairy tale and nothing more. So, in traditional fashion of mine, I write a very long winded post to encourage women to show interest in the men you find appealing to you. Not only will you potentially find some incredible men by doing so, you'll also come to understand what it can be like for men to constantly put themselves out there and the vulnerability that comes with expressing interest in something romantic.
By the way, in the anticipation of someone misreading this post; this is not an attack or an insinuation that men have it any harder than women or vice versa. This is simply an anecdote illustrating a change in time and how a change in societal standards might be a welcome change. I have no ill will against anyone and only wish to provide some people with some food for though and maybe even a new perspective on how to conduct themselves in an ever changing society. Nonetheless, I also hope everyone had a lovely Easter and has had a good year so far. 🙂
Much love to you all.
1. Man meets woman
2. Man displays charm, wit, intelligence, humour and compassion.
3. Woman displays warmth, passion, admiration, support, empathy, sweetness and elegance.
4. A mutualistic agreement is reached for the two to date.
5. The rest shortly becomes history.
The element I leave out of this process is that, regardless of the specification of the traits, it's typically the man that does the asking. While this still makes sense today, it doesn't make quite as much sense as it did in times gone by. In times where women were considered as mothers in waiting and not much else, to the discredit of history, men would seek out the women they desired to be their companions. However the popularity of authors like Jane Austen, illustrated a much more beautiful depiction. Instead of a logical move for men and women to get married, authors of such ilk would ironically romanticise the idea of romance. Fundamentally, this is a much more healthy grounding for a relationship than simple convenience or the effort of keeping a family like running. Nonetheless, the point I'm working my way towards is that times have changed. Women and men, by and large in most first world countries, are on a level playing field to men. While there are some minor discrepancies here and there and while some countries still have progression in need, this point retains its substance. In this vein, it's my personal belief that there should be more of an encouragement for women to seek out the kind of men they would like to partner with. I can wager that most men have NEVER been asked out by a woman and some have grown tired of the repetitious nature of simply the effort of trying to date, let alone "successfully dating." For a woman of calibre to express interest in a man, at least as far as my particular associations go, is borderline unheard of. Despite this, it would be not only incredibly refreshing, but would also inspire hope in many forlorn men who are hitting that wall of wondering whether it is actually all just a fairy tale and nothing more. So, in traditional fashion of mine, I write a very long winded post to encourage women to show interest in the men you find appealing to you. Not only will you potentially find some incredible men by doing so, you'll also come to understand what it can be like for men to constantly put themselves out there and the vulnerability that comes with expressing interest in something romantic.
By the way, in the anticipation of someone misreading this post; this is not an attack or an insinuation that men have it any harder than women or vice versa. This is simply an anecdote illustrating a change in time and how a change in societal standards might be a welcome change. I have no ill will against anyone and only wish to provide some people with some food for though and maybe even a new perspective on how to conduct themselves in an ever changing society. Nonetheless, I also hope everyone had a lovely Easter and has had a good year so far. 🙂
Much love to you all.
