Could you forgive your partner for having an affair ?

@CastorTroy How does one do that ? How can one “enjoy life” with someone they don’t believe they can trust ? 😳

@bijouxbroussard But he did chose to stay with her over his affair and that must say something. He made a mistake and he knows that he could come clean but maybe wants to forget it for both their sakes? Bringing it out into the open may give her some satisfaction but what if in the long run it ruins what they have left?

@CastorTroy Then it's his damn fault for cheating. And it's never satisfying to know that you have been deceived and taken for a fool.

@CastorTroy But he also chose to fool around. And he didn’t come clean—she had to discover it. Who’s to say it’s over ?
I guess it depends on whether or not she believes that being with someone you cannot trust is better than maybe moving on. Not all women do.

@uncalled4 Then let her tell him and perhaps in the long run ruin and lose whatever they have left of their marriage. it's her choice.

@CastorTroy He ruined the marriage by cheating ! I’m looking at the answers by some of the men and can’t help but wonder—would they be giving another man this advice—or would they tell him to dump a cheating wife ?

@CastorTroy Right, so it would be her fault then? That doesn't make sense to me. To me, she knows and the game is up. If she didn't, then I would understand if the guy chose not to say anything, realize his mistake, and have to live with his little secret if he valued his relationship.

@bijouxbroussard Some of these..tbh. I am willing to bet they're into cheating because obviously they don't see it as a problem.

@CastorTroy how is cheating a "mistake"? That makes it sound like an accident. You don't go 'whoops, fell and tripped dick first into her vagina'.

@bijouxbroussard If he has already ruined the marriage by cheating, then she should confront him because she has already decided it's over.
But why is she even asking? Is she afraid of doing so because as I said already, it might break them apart for good?
Has she already decided that if she does and he admits to it that she will end her marriage? Only she knows. Does she still love him enough to forgive after confronting him or file for divorce?

@basilfawlty89 I mean he must have realised that it was a mistake for him to have had an affair in the first place and that he does love his wife to have stayed with her.

@CastorTroy if he loved her, he wouldn't have betrayed her trust. No one forces you to cheat. Someone didn't put a gun against his head and say "fuck this woman or die".

@CastorTroy He loves himself. Had his cake and ate it too.

Him staying isn't doing her a favor while screwing people behind her back.

@CastorTroy As you said, only she knows. And she might forgive him this time, too. But if she doesn’t, it’s because his actions wrecked the relationship, not hers. She’s not obligated to live her life with someone who’s indicated that he can’t be trusted. If he’s willing to go into counseling with her, there might be hope, longterm. Otherwise, things will go on the same until the next “other woman” comes along.

@basilfawlty89 I guess it depends on Maud. If she has already decided it's the end of her marriage because she cannot forgive him for what he did, then all that is left is to confront him. I hope she decides to do whatever is right in her eyes and doesn't regret anything.
I am now throwing the towel in!

@CastorTroy “ It might be better to let it go. She stayed with you and chose to. Don't open a can of worms you may later regret, just enjoy the rest of your life together.”

Just out of curiosity, would you give that advice to a man who thought his wife was cheating and knew she’d done so before ?
Honestly ?

@bijouxbroussard Yes. honestly.