Strangers and connections

You know why it’s easier to open up to strangers than the people we love? Because strangers don’t share a strong emotional connection with us. When we let it out to them, they’ll just accept it and let go.

The lack of sentimental connection makes it easier to release and accept. But to our loved ones, our love for them makes it so hard to pour out our worries to them—for the main reason of not wanting to burden them.

We always want the best for them and the best means as free from negative feelings as they can get. We don’t want to see them worried, sad, nor triggered. So rather than telling them what’s bothering us, we choose to give them the space they deserve, let them have the best time, and just keep the chaos all for ourselves. We love them so much that we don’t want to drag them into our chaos. When in fact, the more we love someone, the more we need to share our burden with them. The more we need to cry onto them, vent out, release. Because only when we truly love someone can we feel safe enough to share our worries and only when they truly love us can they hold our hand and accept us on our worst days.

It’s easier to open up to strangers but it feels better to open up to the people we love.

Some of us haven’t realized it yet because
oftentimes, when we love someone, we forget that loving them means accepting everything that comes with it—and a part of it is being their burden and being burdened by them.

—Ali, (Pahimakas)

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