A quote I live by 😌
"I don't respect my elders based solely on their age. In fact, I judge them more if they had all this time to become a decent person and instead chose to become the opposite."
Ynotisay · M
Solid statement. Although your elders have far more experience than you, lived through much more and might be dealing with issues that you can't relate to. So a little respect, for age alone, might not be the worst thing.
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Ynotisay · M
@NerdyPotato OK. Behavior dictates response. I get that. But response to disrespectful behavior can be informed by a few things. As well as what we find "disrespectful." That varies with people. Some are just looking to feel disrespected, right?
And who knows. Maybe you're 18 and the older generation is 40. I was talking about senior citizens. And with them, in REAL life, they get my respect. If the behavior is a little shitty I take other factors in to consideration. Health, pain, finances, loneliness, spouses, friends and family dying. That happens. Young people aren't the only people dealing with things. And the reality is there's nothing they could do or say where I would feel disrespected. I'm a grown man. My criterion for "disrespect" is different.
What I was taught, and adhere to, is to respect my elders. It's about humility. Older people are revered in cultures around the world. And it's something that a lot of young people, if it isn't taught to them, don't acknowledge. It wasn't that long ago that respect was given and earned. Today it's pretty common to see it demanded and expected. So yeah. Different times,.
And who knows. Maybe you're 18 and the older generation is 40. I was talking about senior citizens. And with them, in REAL life, they get my respect. If the behavior is a little shitty I take other factors in to consideration. Health, pain, finances, loneliness, spouses, friends and family dying. That happens. Young people aren't the only people dealing with things. And the reality is there's nothing they could do or say where I would feel disrespected. I'm a grown man. My criterion for "disrespect" is different.
What I was taught, and adhere to, is to respect my elders. It's about humility. Older people are revered in cultures around the world. And it's something that a lot of young people, if it isn't taught to them, don't acknowledge. It wasn't that long ago that respect was given and earned. Today it's pretty common to see it demanded and expected. So yeah. Different times,.
NerdyPotato · M
@Ynotisay different times indeed. Nowadays respect has to be earned. It may be given by default, but people can't demand it anymore once they've proven they don't deserve it, and I think that's a good thing. Especially senior citizens have used their age as an excuse to be shitty and still expect respect regardless just because they have more experience. But using your experience to improve yourself is just as important as gaining experience itself.
Ynotisay · M
@NerdyPotato OK. At least you've shown me your age. And that you weren't raised to respect your elders. And most aren't today. It's how it is. You'll fight against anything I say because you're young and you know better. And respect? What does that mean exactly? Being sensitive to your feelings? Nah. That's not what respect is.
Young men were raised differently not that long ago. My lane was 'yes sir" and "no ma'am" and I was told to listen and not speak around adults unless I was spoken to. And I'm thankful for that. I'm not thankful that a generation wasn't taught manners, respect and taking care of others. Most were taught they were "special." And we're seeing the backlash. It is what it is. But you do you. Just try not to be a dick about it.
Young men were raised differently not that long ago. My lane was 'yes sir" and "no ma'am" and I was told to listen and not speak around adults unless I was spoken to. And I'm thankful for that. I'm not thankful that a generation wasn't taught manners, respect and taking care of others. Most were taught they were "special." And we're seeing the backlash. It is what it is. But you do you. Just try not to be a dick about it.
